I wanna end our relationship....I don't wanna hurt his feeling...he loves me a lot but he is not the one I need....
what can I tell him?
2007-03-17 17:25:58 · 25 answers · asked by Lilac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to break it off easy on him and still tell him the truth. the longer you wait the worse its going to get. just remember to never say "but we can still be friends" because it only will make him think he still has a chance. It will hurt but if you really don't wanna continue the relationship its the best thing to do. good luck and i hope that you find the perfect man for you!
2007-03-17 17:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by mandy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The longer you don't act the more pain you will cause him. Just tell him in a quiet private area that you are sorry but that you don't feel the love for him that you know he feels for you. Explain that you really like him but you're breaking up with him now because if you continue it will only hurt more in the future.
2007-03-18 00:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, here's the deal...if he loves you alot, no matter what you say it is going to hurt his feelings. However, in the same hand if he loves you alot he'll want you happy, no matter what that means for you and him. it will be harder for him than it will be for you. but not telling him is not being fair to him. There is no such thing as a one sided relationship. he deserves a woman who will love him as much if not more than he loves her. you can't give that to him, and there is no use trying to pretend to make him happy without being happy yourself. it would cause you to do something drastic like cheating and that will hurt worse. come out to him sit down and take it slow. explain that the love is gone, maybe not forever, but right now it's gone. you wish him happiness above all and tell him you care deeply for him that now he may not understand but years down the road he will thank you for allowing him to be free to find the one he should be with.
2007-03-18 00:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by TPete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep it calm and don't make a big deal about it when u tell him. Just tell him you want some time to be single and have some freedom. Make sure to tell him you just want to be friends, because if you dont sometimes they think you dont want to talk to them anymore and u want them out of your life. I'm sure if he is an understanding guy that he will be fine with being friends and you will have a great friendship. Good luck!
2007-03-18 00:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by soccergod7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth you should not stay in a relationship that you really do not want to be in. And if you are smart enough to know that he is not the one then you really need to tell him how you feel. Just come out and tell him don't sugar coat anything.
2007-03-18 00:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only way to tell someone that you dont want to be with them anymore is to just say it~! In a situation like this someone always gets hert~! You will save him fom less pain if you just be honest and tell him now instead of later~! Good Luck~!
2007-03-18 00:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blame everything on yourself. Say something like "I'm too busy to be in a relationship," or "I need to work out some personal problems before I get in a serious relationship with anyone," or "I don't think I'm the person who is best for you. I think you should find someone is more giving than I am." It won't hurt their feelings as much.
2007-03-18 00:32:25 · answer #7 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him that you love him but not the way you used to. You understand that he loves you however you dont feel like you guys are going to go anywhere because your heart isnt in the relationship like it used to be you want to do for yourself and you dont want to hurt him by keeping him stringing along when what he has to offer isnt what you want any longer
2007-03-18 00:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be direct, clear and convincing. Just tell him what you have said here: You want to end it, you don't want to hurt his feelings, but you cannot date him anymore. Don't say you're sorry, don't be too nice and lead him on. Just break it off so he doesn't get any ideas. Your needs are just as important as his and if you want to end it, that is what you have to do. Worrying about it is worse than just doing it and getting it over with. Good luck! You can do it.
2007-03-18 00:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by Cynthia W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest with him and tell him the reason it's not working. If you're honest you might be able to be friends. Tell him what you want and maybe things can change, remember you can't change somebody that does not want to. If he loves you that much, he'll do anything to make it work.
2007-03-18 00:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Rouzer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋