O.K theres this guy who started talking to me out of the blue. I always seen him at family parties and I always liked me.Little did I know that he liked me since the 1st day he seen me.He has a girl, but the first opportunity he got to talk 2 me he used it and wasnt going to let it go.We started talking he took me out.The we hanged out another time.He told me he really likes me and again he always did.Finally I told him I aways liked him 2.He was shocked.And I guess he started liking me more.He was really expressing how much he likes me.Did i mention he's 8 yrs older than me?I like him but not as much as he likes me.But Im thinkin should I use this guy as a learning expierence and prepare for my next relationship or do I tell him that I cant degrade myself like that?Its not who I am.Although I do tend to get what I want and Im hoping that maybe inthe future I could have a chance to be with him.(marrage)being his girl on the side is what he is use 2? Help please.
2007-03-17 17:25:25 · 6 answers · asked by Christina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i think you really need to leave him alone because he has a women and you shouldn't want to be the chick on the side, not saying that he don't have feelings for you but i think he is just running that line to you to see how far and how long he can go with you. Honey a man will tell you anything to make you feel good. But if he really wants you he would leave the women he's with and even if he did i wouldn't want him cause it's a good chance he will do you the same way. Yes you can take what has happen as a learning experience an never deal with someone that's already in a relationship but i don't think that the age is a problem it's all in the way you carry yourself, you know if you are mature or not. And maybe its best you don't get what you want in this situation. Good luck , hope this will help a little
2007-03-17 17:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were his girlfriend, how would YOU feel? Being his girl on the side isnt gonna make you feel good about yourself in the long run. Not to mention there will inevitably be trust issues which can kill ANY relationship. Never , and I tell you this from personal experience, do anything you don want done to you. It has a way of coming back to bite you in the butt!! I cannot reinforce this enough!! Do the right thing!
2007-03-17 17:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a on the side is not fair to his or wife or you that is not the way to go if you want him that bad just tell him if you cant have him 110% then not at all and what makes you think he does not tell every women he meets that you have to think what could come of this cause you never know how could be the forth or fith on the side
2007-03-17 17:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Black Knight 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like lust. The guy is 8 yrs older than you, has a girl and is a cheater. He is just looking for a piece of *** on the side when he wants it and he is telling you everything he can to get what he wants.
Don't kid yourself and be a fool. He is not marriage material.
HE IS A CHEATER.
If he will cheat with you... he will cheat on you!
2007-03-17 17:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Intelfem7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never use anyone as a learning experience or for any other reason. If you truly like him, then date him. If you aren't sure, let him know this. Date other boys for a while, and if truly have feelings for him, they won't disappear. If he truly likes you as much as you say he does, he will understand. True love is a very rare and beautiful thing. You will know it when the right one comes along.
2007-03-17 17:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Don't do it!
You will only catch feelings and he will NOT leave his girlfriend for you.
IF for any reason he does you will never trust him. You'll always be wondering if he's doing that to you!!!
Trust me its a bad idea!
Don't fall for this scum bucket!
2007-03-17 17:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋