My bf was with a girl before he met me, but left her for me. We've dated for a year and planned on so much together, but it turns out he only saw me as a friend, dated me to make me happy, and still loves his ex. She only wants him as a friend and she doesn't believe in love. I'm
slowly getting better, but i still love him as a bf. he would remind me
randomly through out the day he didn't love me. i want him to find
happiness and i told him to watch out that his ex may only see him as a
friend forever, and he yelled at me for it. He really wants to believe
she'll date him. I really was curious if there is any way I could make him
love me as a gf. Or at least help him get over his ex so he wont feel
what I felt when he told me he only saw me as friend. We are breaking up when hes ready to move on, and still wants to kiss, and cuddle with me, and he says that he feels more than friendship, but not love as in together forever so I wonder if that is possibly his subconscious
2007-03-17 16:37:03 · 10 answers · asked by Jinx E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh come on, really, you don't believe that do you?
He's a GUY!!! I'm a guy. And as a representative of the male populace I'm here to say that you've had the wool pulled opver your eyes. Sure, it may very well be true that he's infactuated with this chick, but fu(k her. She's nothing. Guys have a problem, you see, we don't value women as anything other than a piece of meat until we think we can't have them. He knows he can have you, and thus you look less appealing when placed next to an ex who's not spreading like butter for him. Realistically, if you want this guy, you've got to push him away some. The trick is finding the delicate balance, you only want to play it aloof enough to make yourself hard to get, not impossible. And you never know, along the way you may even realize you can do better. But yeah, I hope you believe me on this because I'm telling you the truth. Don't listen to these other people telling you to "get out while you still can! omg gag me with a spoon, this one guy was really mean to me!" No. Those are people that simply don't know how to play the game. Trust me on this.
2007-03-17 16:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by Friedrich Nietzsche 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you'll be able to make him love you.
I hope this guy isn't being selfish and only thinking about what he can get out of others.. He may have passion, but it may be for his own private aims, or for the satisfaction of his own selfish desires.
I would advise you to keep being interested in this guy, but really get to know him. Enjoy the friendship relationship. Get to know him and what makes him tick. Be authentic with him. Don't try to be someone you're not. That's how trust will be able to develop between you and this guy. He may not be ready for a deep commitment. You wouldn't want to go there anyway, because you give too much of yourself away when you get too serious.
Relationships are so much more enjoyed when you can lighten up and LIVE! Just enjoy friendships.
2007-03-17 23:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by bwlobo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, my goodness. RUN away. I had a boyfriend like this in high school. It was soo devastating in the long run, because i always hoped things would change. he's not trying to move on. he's using you. don't let anyone do that to you. you are going to have to be the one to say, "look, i would love it if you saw me in a different light, but you know...i can't be here when you want me to be. its all or nothing. and im sorry that she doesn't want you in that way, but you are going to have to move on so everyone can ultimately be happy." please stand up for yourself. i promise it hurts more if you don't. that guy is leading you on until he gets where he wants to be. don't settle for that.
2007-03-17 23:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by Marines<3Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! forget him hes an asshole and u deserve better. he shouldnt of done that to u! trying to find the perfect guy is like trying to find atlantis. listen to a song called i will learn to love again it will help your heartache. one day hes gonna realize what an idiot he was and hes gonna be the one with a heartache. tell him that he can use his hand then. and dont worry your heart will mend. good luck!
2007-03-17 23:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
way too much! if someone does not love you like that you can spend your life getting angry at them and trying to get them to love you which will never happen or move on be happy with yourself and let it go
2007-03-17 23:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by JoJo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is sickly attached to an old dream.
Sweetie, get out while you still have room to breathe. Don't end up like him.
2007-03-17 23:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by love anyway 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm if he befriends you then try to pretend to hide that you like him. then i guess one day he will be curios and ask you. you just say, "oh nothing.it's just that you are so kind and loving." then he will know you like him. perhaps it will end up him saying sorry and you guys just be best friends. hope that helps.
2007-03-17 23:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by stephen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know. dont get involved with someone if their not ready to be in a relationship fully. peace
2007-03-17 23:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just stringing you along.
He wants his cake and eat it too.
2007-03-17 23:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by David R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him. move on. he's taking you for granted and thinking about that girl, more than your feelings.
2007-03-17 23:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋