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Question

We r both married and say we will not have an affair r interestead in each other, however at work we are always joking talking, going for coffee. When talking to me she often touches me and sometimes hesitates touching me. When we work we work but when we play we do just as hard. When talking to me she is often in my space and most of the time when walking past my office looks in. When on the phone we talk and one of us will say we have to go or don't u have to go then we talk even more. We from time to time buy each other drinks and talk personal. . Generally she will always sit next to me in eetings. What is odd is our manager has changed the schedule each month and we r never on lunch together or whatevre. We both say we enjoy our spouses but in the same breath enjoy each other company. I always say come for a walk and we go walking to buy tea etc.Is there something happening trol or is this imagination.

Answer 1

hmm if there was nothing going on then you wouldn't ask such questions it would just be a great mate to talk to at work right? so now I'm asking you Is there something going on? mate you know better how you feel I can not enter your feelings I can just guess... but you say your married so its no good idea getting in to strong feelings about somebody else unless your ready to lose your wife if your wife its not worth it then move on go with this great mate but you think about what your doing and think good because its not fair for anybody and you must respect your wife!

Answer 2

I do think there is something there. A certain something just beneath the surface but unsaid. I think there may be a battle going on your heads between the conventional (I am married and promised) and your obviously felt connection. It is a dilemma. You do not say if any children are involved. Nor do you say how long you have been married. But after considering all the factors will you be happier if you split your marriages? Would you live a life of regret? Our culture seems to tell us to stick with our decisions. But if you are still young then perhaps it is time to make a change. Neither one of you will make a good spouse if you are constantly regretting. Weigh everything, consider all the possible consequences and then decide. You are not the first to face this kind of circumstance. Good Luck

Answer 3

Have you ever seen The Office? Because you have the Jim&Pam Syndrome. You both flirt and like each other, but yet it seems to go nowhere because you both have other people you're with. Do you love your wife? Do you respect her? If yes, stay friends with this women, unless you have strong feelings for her. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, but don't create competition for your wife. You married her for a reason, and know its wrong to consider this woman more than a friend. Just treat her like one, so..no more flirting.

Answer 4

If you want to stay married please stay away from this person and just say you have a lot of work otherwise you will be back on here and asking what happened when you are getting a divorce