this guy was amazing. he still IS. but he's with another girl now, because he left me for her.. because i feel i guess i took his liking me for granted and didn't try as hard as i could have... i basically just regret it because he was such a good guy.. he was perfect for me, but i didn't really open up and show him that because it ended before i could.. he didn't really give me a chance.. because right when he ended it i was Just starting to Really open up and everything, because i'm shy at first.. but right Then he moved on. i regret it so much and blame myself and i Can't seem to forgive myself no matter what i do or think, because i believe it's all my fault and don't know if it is. but How could i let such a perfect guy get away so fast? :(
2007-03-17 16:27:07 · 21 answers · asked by coolio 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, maybe he's not so perfect. If he couldn't figure this out, that you were slowly opening up to him, which is normal, then he's not for you.
He's probably not as patient as someone should be, and if he moved on that quick, you are seeing what you want to see. I don't think he sounds like a keeper.
He may seem like it from what you got to know, but if he coudn't handle things at this point and cut and ran, then be glad he moved on.
He doesn't have the depth that you do, to take your time and get to trust and know another.
You seem to blame yourself a lot, so maybe you opening up wasn't the whole or real issue. Sorry, but maybe it's you doubting yourself so much. Perhaps he noticed the insecurities taking over. We all have them, but if we practice getting them under control, we won't be riddled with them.
Your comments are full of blaming yourself. Didn't you say HE moved on? That was HIS choice. It has NOTHING to do with you.
Even if you weren't right for him, that has nothing to do with you. It just is. It doesn't change who you are if you and he didn't jive. You deserve someone YOU choose. Someone YOU decide you want to have in your life, and someone YOU decide you want to open up to.
Take control of YOUR life. This has more to do with you than anything about him. Get your thoughts in order for the next guy that comes along and you get sweet on. :)
2007-03-17 16:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Marie123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he was really so perfect for you? A "perfect" guy would likely have understood that you are shy and needed a little more time.
Either way you shouldn't beat yourself up. Dating is HARD. If you don't open up it doesn't work, but if you do you take a big risk and sometimes get some BIG hurt in return. It's understadable to want to take it slow.
MAYBE things will work out such that you'll get another chance with this guy. That would be nice, but in the meantime keep your eyes open. You never know who you're going to meet, or when. And when you do just try to remember what you've learned from your past relationships. As with everything, practice makes perfect.
2007-03-17 16:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by danl747 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sucks that you feel that it is only your fault that he left, but don't beleive "if only I did this or if only I did that" that he would still be around. If he respected you and cared about you he would not have found another girl so quickly. Basically my point is, he probably wasn't as "perfect" as you thought he was. There are good guys out there that will respect you, now all you have to do is work on is having the self confidence to attract them. Good luck.
2007-03-17 16:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Meg22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been asking myself the same question about a girl that I thought was the best. I never dated her, but before I could ask her out, she went with someone else. Like you I am shy. Don't take it for granted, you'll only hurt yourself worse. Just remember, time heals all wounds. You'll move on eventually. Good Luck to you.
2007-03-17 16:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by mtoutlaw_87 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wasn't the perfect guy for you! You may think so right now and he may really have been a great guy. But there is someone for everyone and when you get your someone you will know. You cry over spilled milk, but why? Just clean it up and move on!
2007-03-17 16:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hm.....that'd suck :(. I suggest you be around in his life if you can manage it. Don't do anything drastic, but stay in touch. Be like his friend. Be open, be interested. But not in an overt way. If he responds, good, if not, you know he has truly moved on. And don't expect. It will lead to more heartache.
Yes, unfirtunately, we can let some really great guys go, but you know what, don't lose heart....everything does happen for the best. U might realize that later, if not now.
2007-03-17 16:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to prove to him that you are better than this girl. Why don't you tell him everything that you told us? If he's such a great guy, he might understand and take you back. Plus he's got a rebound chick...what good is that? They never work anyway (no offense to her). Prove that you can try harder and be a good girlfriend.
Good luck! ;-)
2007-03-17 16:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well i didn't go through sumthin like this tho
but one adice that i cud give u is that let him go
he lost a girl that is great n pretty
i never met u but every single girl is pretty
he is not worth it
event ho u have cried over him
he is not worth ur tears
he is not worth ur heart
he is not even worth ur feelins
he is nothin
u gave him a chance but he letted u go so y should not care 4 him ne more
there is millions of guys out there that wud like to meet u
n they also deserves u too
this guy does not derserve u at all
i hope this helps u a lot
so he is worth nothin but u r...he just lost sumthin special
2007-03-17 16:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry just think he may have liked you but he was getting nothing out of you (no sexual related stuff...) so he probably wasnt happy but dont blame yourself everyone needs some times to get comfertable with it...but do u know the guy well? if u do u should have been good enough friends to be comfertable with him already and if not dont worry he havnt learned everything about him
2007-03-17 16:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by amandacupcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was so great, he wouldn't have dumped you the minute you start to open up to him. If he was so great, he would have given you a chance. If he was so great, he would have understood your shyness. If he was so great, he'd be with you. He wasn't all that and his behavior doesn't make him "amazing" at all. Good thing you found out sooner rather than later.
2007-03-17 16:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋