A couple years ago my sisters boyfriend broke up with her and she tried to kill herself. My niece found her and called 911. My mom thinks I am being childish for still carrying a grudge. I talk to her all the time but I don't ever want to hang out with her or go any where together. I am so mad that she tried to commit suicide. She was always my best friend but now I feel like she was betraying me. Am I wrong to be mad at her?
2007-03-17 16:26:44 · 14 answers · asked by invictus 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your anger is well understood but honestly I don't think you are angry I think you are scared. I mean what would have happened if she had died? Instead of pulling away from her after that incident you should have gotten closer to her and tried to help her out through her hard times. How do you think she feels? If she was your best friend then you should have been there for her too. I understand that you felt betrayed but I can almost guarantee you that she felt the same. What makes this worse is that she is your sister. I get mad at my sister sometimes cuz she does a lot of dumb things that put her in danger and I let her know that I hate she does it and we argue and although she is 4 years younger than me she is one of my best friends(22, 18). I love her and whenever she is hurt it hurts me too. I may be mad at her because I know she knows better than to put herself in harm's way but all that anger is, well, I'm scared of losing her.
2007-03-17 16:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by calichicka852003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to feel angry and hurt, but you're not doing yourself any favors by carrying a grudge. It may be a good idea to talk about all of this with your sister, get it out in the open. By talking to her, it could end up bringing you two closer together. I hope this helps and Good Luck !
2007-03-17 16:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by Alicia L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anger is a destructive emotion. Perhaps, your anger could contribute to her feelings of worthlessness and she will fall into a deeper depression and will be more successful. Most people who kill themselves have tried before. Our jobs as human beings is to help each other not judge each other. Forgiveness is a sign of maturity. Anger also hurts you. It's been two years, stop your hatred. If you reject others for their weaknesses, you will be alone. Help your sister. She suffers from depression not you. Let go of your egocentricity. Enjoy each other while there is still time.
2007-03-17 16:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has different reactions to things, you arent acting out of the "norm."
Anger is the second reaction to fear. Fear is first, and it often appears in anger.
I would recommend getting some counseling from a friend or a professional specifically about this if you dont want to talk to your sister about it.
It is still bothering you, big time, and you will always be her sister, nothing can change that, so please please try and smooth things over.
If you dont work it out now, it will most likely affect relationships even worse in the future, and not only with your sister..
2007-03-17 16:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by love anyway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was in a lot of emotional pain and didnt know how to deal with it.She hurt so bad she just wanted to die and nothing anyone could have said would have made her feel otherwise.Fortuenately someone intervened before she died.Be glad she is still here and quit being mad at her.Try to be a little understanding.Yes ,suicide is selfish, but others help to push them to it in some ways.
2007-03-17 16:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, instead of being there for her when she needed you the most, you chose to worry about yourself and be mad at her. Betrayed you? In what way? Have you stopped to think why you feel so betrayed? Is it because people look at you and associate you with the sister who tried to kill herself. I think you are very selfish and you should stop for a minute and think about your own sister and stop being all pompous and mad at her.
2007-03-17 16:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Something as tragic as that would surely bring you both closer together?? Are you angry because she didnt talk to you about how she was feeling? Have you told her how scared you are of losing her?Have you thought of how she feels because you never go anywhere together anymore? You've got to talk to her to get some trust back between you. The longer you leave it the harder it will get.
2007-03-17 16:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems kinda selfish, Keri. Most people are willing to cut some slack and give a little compassion when someone cries out for help. It isn't ALL about you. Ponder this.
2007-03-17 16:30:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a cousin who tried to commit sucide several years ago and failed. Well, anyway she finally succeded last year. I believe if your sis tried once.... there is a possibility that she may try again. If you truly care about her. Get help.
2007-03-17 16:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by geno1581 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would be upset to. My sister always cut on herself growing up and it made me furious. i didnt understand why she couldnt talk to me about what was going on instead of doing that to herself. I know it is different but eventually my whole family sat down and talked to her about it and she eventually stopped (that we know of). Maybe you should just talk to your sister and tell her how you feel and maybe you will able to forgive her.
2007-03-17 16:32:34 · answer #10 · answered by Lexi's mommy had twins! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋