every great girl i really like that i meet and become friendly with it always ends up in the friend zone ya know were everytime they speak to you its "hey buddy or hey friend" hate it so much..help plz..
2007-03-17 16:24:02 · 12 answers · asked by John A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same problem when I was growing up. I think it's a fear of rejection or being cautious of rejection and once I realized that I overcame it.
The only thing I can suggest is, stop trying to be their friend. When you like a girl ask her out to a movie, or dance or something, right away. Don't get "friendly" and see if she "likes" you first.
If she likes you she'll say yes, if she has a boyfriend she'll tell you. And if she says no, be a man, turn around and walk away like it's no big deal.
I know it's going to be hard at first, but just do it. If you don't ask for what you want you don't get what you want,...right..?
I remember a friend I had in high school. The one day in geography class the teacher wasn't in the classroom yet, he got up and went to the prettiest girl in the class gently put his hand on her cheek and asked her to marry him, she said no, so he went to the next girls desk and did the same thing and she said no. I think he made it to the fifth girl before the teacher came in and warned him that one day one of the girls is going to say yes, then what. He was kind of a joker and was just having some fun. But, I think he went out with three of those girls before the end of the school year.
I just thought that story might help you with this one girl right now. Next time you see her and I mean the next time not the second time, the very next time you see her, and she says "hey buddy", say Hi, smile, look her in the eye, gently (slowly so you don't scare her) put your hand on her cheek and say "will you marry me?" And I guarantee at that exact moment she wont be thinking of you as "buddy" she'll be thinking your a man.
Good Luck
2007-03-17 17:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by gino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Quite frankly you let it happen. It is a common guy mistake to be friendly which becomes very friendly and then you become a real friend that gets no play. My advise is be friendly only the first three times you meet her then you use your move which will include her coming over to you pad.
All you have to do is just pick up her vibe. Say little and put your bid in player. Because once you become friends the damage has been done. You can never go back.
Hey and if she says "Hey we can only be friends."Charge her to the game and move on. Bonus tip# If she really plays the friend card the ask her set you up with a friend of hers I mean if she is a real friend she would do it.
2007-03-17 16:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by SuperKdog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be very careful of that. what you need to do is make sure when you meet a girl that she knows you're interested in being more than just friends, without coming off to strong of course. you do this by only hanging out with her in settings that couples only hang out. Take her to the movies, romantic dinners, ect. Don't act like a friend, act like someone who is interested in dating her. Try to hold her hand. Kiss her on the cheek, and eventually move in for the lips. If she's not interested, oh well, move on. If she is, cool
2007-03-17 16:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dawood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop coming at them on a buddy level! Don't seem to friendly or buddy buddy. women want a little chase every now and then and if you are always available and there for them then friendship is all you will ever have!
2007-03-17 16:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just haven't met the right girl. Patience. And maybe you might meet a friend of a 'friend' so keep your head up and a smile on your face and don't worry about what you don't have coz you will have what you want soon enough : )
Good luck!
2007-03-17 16:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to answer this question without seeing or knowing you personally. You probably just haven't met someone who you link up with...if it happens regularly I can see how it sucks but don't try to be anything that you are not just to gain the attention of someone.
2007-03-17 16:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man im having the same problems as you aye it sucks if you get the answer tell me lol
2007-03-17 16:28:27 · answer #7 · answered by This.B.Richy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the opposite... no girl ever wants to be just friends with me.. lol.
2007-03-17 16:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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she just wasnt the one....dont you worry There is someone for everyone!!
2007-03-17 16:27:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man...let me tell you. I am in the exact same problem. Just don't dwell on it.
2007-03-17 16:35:07 · answer #10 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋