Do you think it's right to have a child. The baby father want's you to get rid of it cause the time isn't right but you don't want to get a abortion... What would you do???
2007-03-17 16:20:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm 23 years old....
2007-03-17 16:47:32 · update #1
Also I didn't plan getting the job after the baby is born all before I would be stupid to wait that long
2007-03-17 16:50:33 · update #2
you are planning on working and saving.. that's very responsible and you don't want to abort.. so that leaves adoption and raising the child on your own... I can tell you want to raise the child at this point and that is your decision. Work and do what you can, don't be afraid to ask family and friends for help, and even though many people look down on it, there is help and programs out there that are big helps... like the WIC program that can help you get good nutrious foods while you are pregnant and help with breastfeeding support or help buy baby formula for you..you go girl.. don't let anyone get you down :)
2007-03-17 16:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well I know this young couple who live together and had gotten pregnant. The guy worked two jobs and she worked one job. The girl worked all the way till her third trimester, the guy worked both jobs until the baby was born then went down to one job. Together they saved $12,000 between that 9 months. If you are willing to work that hard, then go for it, but if you do not have the support and help from the father, it may be a lot harder. Also you can get child support from him. If you do not want to get an abortion, then dont, theres also adoption, but if you want to keep your baby, do it. It has and will be done by many single mothers. Dont let anyone tell you that you cannot do it. You are just going to have to keep motivated.
2007-03-17 23:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by mrs.russell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
I had a baby at 17, didn't have a job...
Depends on what you WANT.. it will be a long, hard road, and it doesn't get easier. The love is worth it, but it's ultimately up to you. It also depends on whether or not you are willing to give up your life. You don't have a "life" of your own after becoming a parent. There is no more thinking about yourself, it's always about the child (which is how it should be obviously).
Think about it no matter what you think you want to do. It's a big decision either way. Remeber that a baby is a blessing.
2007-03-17 23:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, think about it. Do you think you could love the baby? Of cousre, if you cant afford it there are government programs like WIC and what not. But if you and the baby's father could give the baby love. You should keep the child. You dont want to bring a child into this world if you wont care for it. If and only if u could give the child love then you should keep the child. If you dont have an income it's ok because there are gov. programs that will help you out. Of course, the gov. programs are only enough for you and your child to eat. But that's good enough if you want to keep the child. Well, good luck with everything ^_^
2007-03-17 23:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by A Flower for a SIn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want an abortion , enough said. Especially if you are able to see what needs to be done ( job, money, saving ) , and it would help if yo had some family or close friends to back you up , like emotionally.
If you were to get an abortion without being 101% sure it would be a huge!!!! mistake. As for him he was comfortable laying in the bed, he should at least help to make it.
2007-03-17 23:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by derangdlilmonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont abort, especially if u dont want to. right now it may seem hard but there are tons of things out the that u can use to help u out like WIC, Med-cal, all that kind of stuff so u have a good start. just tell your babys father that if he make you get rid of your child, you and him are killing somebody that could have made a big difference in life but would not have the chance because of stuborn parents that only thought of themselves. just think about that okay, hopefully u make the right choice.
2007-03-17 23:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The timing is never right for anything. If you are in a financial bind, you can always get on welfare until you get a job. I am pro choice. I don't think that you should have an abortion. Adoption is an option, but there are ways to get help. Good Luck.
2007-03-17 23:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by janelle b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of options that you have. You can let a more stable family member adopt the baby for a time til you get on your feet and support the baby. If I didn't want to get an abortion I wouldn't get an abortion.
2007-03-17 23:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Chinara O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im a 21 year old single parent,my family (parents) are in the Philippines.i receive no financial help from anyone but myself,i havent even stepped into college yet and my situation was far worst than yours...
The babys father babys father forced me to have sex with him and was physically abusive and was trying to kill me and the baby because he was not ready yet and our religious differences.hes a muslim and im a christian...
I took him to court so he could not go anywhere near me.i do not receive child support whatsoever...
The baby was not planned at all...
I was a christian,had my life planned,working and just about to start school and that happened...
The first thing i did was talked to my pastor to seek for an advise,i cried to him...
After that the whole church got involved and they volunteered on being the babys father and mother with me...
I had 2 baby showers.1 from church and 1 from church,i have 2 of almost evrything a baby could ever have in his life...
They gave me an awesome babyshower and my babys dedication was at a hotel...
They always offer to baby sit.
While i was pregnant i was working 2-3 different jobs to save money...
i had 2 CNA jobs and at a convenient store...
Managed to buy a decent car,working in a better field now at a pharmaceutical company.
Now in school and hopefully pursue my education to being a pharmacist...
My son now 6 months old goes to church every sunday,i want him to grow up to be god fearing and god loving.
its very hard and painful to know ur child would be fatherless but its painful for ur child to know that his father does not want to be in his life...
but pray to god for him to fill and be that missing part in u and ur soon to be childs life and u will receive far more than any other person could give u.
the only thing that i can advise u is hold on to God...
Ask and you shall receive...
Theres nothing more satisfying and fulfilling than u holding that little baby that God has blessed u with to love and nurture...
2007-03-18 01:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by aznbabyangel17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what is already in your heart. Millions of people like you have the same decision to make about their future. I would suggest that you have the child and then find time to have your parents and friends help you. Get a part time job and you will be rewarded immensely with happiness as you grow to love your new family.
2007-03-17 23:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by fenx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋