My mom is all i have right now and i really like it here in texas but when i went up there with my dad i felt like i was really accepted their so what should i do not to hurt my moms feelings!!!!!!! I need advice and quick!!!!!!
2007-03-17 16:15:03 · 6 answers · asked by Sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you first need to ask yourself some questions. Get a sheet of paper and draw a line in the middle from top to bottom. on one side list reasons to stay with mom amd on the other list reasons to be with dad. list everthing you can think of. some sample reasons: stay with mom because it would break her heart; because we get along so good; because i would miss mom so much; because dad doesn't have room for me; because i would miss my grandma and cousins; because i really like the school, etc. now be honest with yourself. as you grow up always try to make yourself happy but also try not to hurt others. do a lot of serious thinking and then make a decision. then the hard part, you will have to calmly discuss your decision with each parent. sometimes children just don't know all the facts about adult issues, so the decision may not be up to you anyway. if you have just moved to a new town and school give yourself some time to get acquainted. join some clubs at school. check with the guidance counselor about possible after school actiities where you could make friends. no matter what happens or whom you end up living with, always be kind to everyone, try never to hurt anyones feelings and smile....you'll have more friends than you can imagine by this time next year.
Make yourself and others happy!
2007-03-17 16:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by justme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mom how accepted you felt when you visited your Dad and how much you love it there. Tell her how much you love her and what a great influence she has been in your life but how much you feel you have missed out in your Dad's life. Tell her that you would like to get to know him better and even though she has problems with him he is still your Father and you love him very much. Explain how welcomed and happy you felt with your Dad and how you really love living with your Mom but you still feel as if you need to have your Dads presence in your life. Tell her how you feel as if you have missed out on times with your Dad and how as you are growing up you need to have other parental figures in your life. If she gets upset at you let her cool off a bit before bringing it up again. Tell her how much you love and appreciate her and tell her all the great things about her frequently throughout the next days. Its important you make her feel as if she is not a failure and keep telling her that its not her its just that you want to get to know your Dad better.
Despite all this I really feel in my heart you should live with your Mom. She has been their for you all these years and she deserves your complete support. Why don't you ask your Mom to visit your Dad more often? This will be the best for everyone and I hope you listen to my advice and stay with your mother. Even though I don't know you I honestly feel way down deep in my heart your Mom is the best person for you right now.
Hope this helps! Good Luck!
2007-03-18 14:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by BroadwayStar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has the responsibility of raising you which includes disciplining you. When you see your dad it's just like a vacation where everything is fun so you want to live with him. Stay with your mom. In the long run she will have more understanding of your needs and will be more of a friend to you. As long as they both love you what more could you want?
2007-03-18 02:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't leave your mom, it will surely break her heart. The reason I know this is my 2 young teenagers went to visit their dad last summer for vacation for 3 weeks. In August 2006 I got a phone call from their dad, telling me do not go to the airport the kids are not coming home. My children said they love me, but they really like Florida. My children are my life. I raised them alone for nearly 15 years and 7 months later I still can not believe they are not with me.. I cry every night, and still cannot go into their bedrooms, So please don't leave your mom. You're all she got...
2007-03-17 22:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by coping/ letting go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in spite of in case you should stay with him is your dad waiting to have you ever stay with him? because maximum father and mom that flow to penal complex have their youthful ones taken away and they cant stay with them for some era of time yet when he's in a position to shop then you definitely flow to the courtroom along with your dad and clarify to them that you wanna stay along with your dad and under no circumstances your mom. tell them each clarification why. your the right age to speak for your self. your no longer a touch one anymore so in case you wanna stay along with your dad somewhat then maximum in all probability they're going to assist you in spite of in case your mom does have custody over you.
2016-11-26 19:52:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to your mom, but unless you are over 18, you dont really have that choice
2007-03-17 16:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋