I hate it when my bf leaves me here alone. he works 2 jobs, he comes home at 12am when im already asleep, we are both off tomarrow so Im not going to bed and he went out to his friends. He asks me for PERMISSION to go, it makes me feel like a controlling *****, but Im not like that, its just I never see him and when he spend his free time with other people it just tares me up.
2007-03-17 16:11:16 · 15 answers · asked by jkeys00 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He doesn't have much free time..so the question is ..does he spend most of it with you ? if yes..then do not fuss about him going out with friends once in a while..i no ..then you need to reconsider this whole relationship..but in either case you need to deal with it ..not get all puffed up because that WILL ruin a relationship
2007-03-17 16:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by connie b 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stop! be for real. You're not mad because he goes to work but when he gets back he's not with you, right?
The idea he ask for permission to go out means he's aware of
what's going on at home.
You are not a control freak.
People need to socialize he does and so should you if at all possible. This way when you come together you won't be thinking
you are second best and the conversation will be alot easier.
Try to put those feelings of less then best aside and work with what you have. He does have two jobs try getting one so he can
leave one.
2007-03-17 23:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by themeathanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit his down and tell him how you feel. Be like It bummes me out how I cant see u bc you have to work all the time. And make sure he understands that it is okay to have a job. You need 2 set up a private date... or maybe cook some dinner and play some soft music and wait for him to come home from work because that will most likely surprise him and it will bring you closer. and you are lucky enough to have a guy that asks for permission .bc he really cares about u and isnt one of those guys that will go out and cheat on you. It takes work! Put some effort into it, surprise him...draw a midnight bath and dont forget to put your problems aside bc everythin will be fine!
2007-03-17 23:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are giving him permission to go, then he may be getting the idea that's what you want. You two need to work out time with his friends and time for you two to go out or just spend the day together. Your not controlling at all to speak for what you want in this relationship also. Perhaps when he goes out with the guys you go out with your friends so your not feeling left completely left out. But you do need at least a couple of days a week on your days of together.
2007-03-17 23:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i wud just tell him that u guyz should really hang out
i mean if u id not treatin u how u think he is suppose to...
than dump him
cuz u r the only person who is really trying to keep this realationship
n all he is doing is just layin back n enjoy it
i think he is really lying to
because if he leaves u 4 his friends than he just wants to avoid u
dnt go after a guy who u no doesn't deserves u
that is a lesson that i learned like 4 dayz ago
i just broke up wit my bf cuz of that
he is not doing ne thing
so i left
there is millions of other great guys in the world who will treat me like that way i should b treated
so now he just lost sumthin that he luvs n want me back
but hey i gave him a chance to be wit me
but he just blew it off
so i just blew him off
i no that luvs hurt
but in a way...u will b hurt soon or later
the truth hurts but the lies hurt more
mayb u will end up noing that he was fake luving u 4 sum stupid reason
that just hurts a lot
so i hope this helps u wit wat u r goin through
so use it
2007-03-17 23:21:52 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand how you feel. My man works all day and night and last night instead of him comming to bed his friends came over and they played pool. I'm like what about me? But do what I do. Make him miss you. It's hard on you, but at the end you will have nothing but a smile to show.
2007-03-17 23:17:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He knows you'll let him go out if he asks and make you feel like a big *****...You should get dressed and go out with him. tell him if he's going you are going too. He might be hooking up with another chick or something at a club or bar or where he goes.
If you catch him cheating then dump him. It doesn't seem like he wants to be with you anymore.
If you need to chat ..you can always contact me I'll try to help ya.
2007-03-17 23:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf needs to know that he should spend time with you more, especially when you dont see eachother alot. asking your permission to go is a trick he does to make you feel like you cant say no and you cant get mad at him cause he will say 'well i asked you if i could go out'.
if he still misses his friends then its better for him to be single
2007-03-17 23:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you go with him to his friends? It would annoy me too and I understand how you feel when he asks you permission. Perhaps you should say No he cant go out.
2007-03-17 23:17:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should tell him you want to hang out with him on his free time every once in a while since he works 2 job. let him know how you feel. when he calls to ask if its ok, he wants to make sure your ok with it, and if your not he'll probably come home to hang out with you.
2007-03-17 23:16:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋