Im 14 and Good looking, but when a girl starts to talk to me I start to malfunction. I dont know what to say and dont want to say anything stupid. what is my problem?
2007-03-17 16:10:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You dont have a problem, im a girl, and if i came in contact with a nice looking guy, i'd get malfunctions, its just that girls can hold themselves together more, my brother is 14 too and hes really popular, when i asked him how he stays cool,hejust says he talks more to the girls and get comfortable with them, if nothing happeneds from their then maybe you have feelings for this girl?And you should ask her out.
2007-03-17 16:14:02 · answer #1 · answered by MarinaMCR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same age as you and I used to have the same exact problem a few years back. What you really need to do is be confident. Girls know when you are scared so show them taht you are confident. Aslo some of the things to talk about is entertainment, music, sports??(sometimes girls don't like), but the most important thing is to be yourself. You don't want to be someones friend if you are changing your personality for them to like you.
Also give them compliments. They always love them!
And last, but not least were cologne. They love the smell!
Hope you have a better time talking to them! Good luck!
2007-03-17 16:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by JakeHamson5978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already said what your problem is: you're shy. Join groups where there are girls so you can get more used to being around the opposite sex. And just try to be more outgoing. Introduce yourself to girls and try to be more down-to-earth. I know it may be kinda hard at first, but the more you open up, the more comfortable you will become. You seem like a really sweet guy. Things will work out for you. Good luck!
2007-03-17 16:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me, i'm a 14 year old girl, and we girls "malfunction" too! you seem to be pretty confident in your appearance, so you just need to build off that and work on self confidence. plan ahead of time what your going to say. visualize yourself saying it in your head. and practice talking to girls! just talk about innocent things, such as whats going on in class. After a while things will get easier. good luck! ♥
2007-03-17 16:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha don't worry about it.. i am the Exact same way and a girl. Lots of people (most) are like this when they get around a girl/guy they Really like. i am like that and close up and my mind goes blank because i don't want to say anything stupid, because i just Really Really like them and don't want to mess anything up. it's called fear of rejection. you just don't have a lot of faith and confidence in yourself, and hey that happens.. but you need to just be yourself because that's what you want someone to fall in love with isn't it... and by not being yourself and opening up you are preventing many people from being albe to experience your amazing and wonderful self! and why would you want to do that to All those poor people!? ;) :) good luck!!! and all i can tell you is that you Are amazing and you need to let people see it, and also, it will ease over time. trust me.. and once you find that Perfect girl, you will just be able to talk to her and things will come..
2007-03-17 16:16:25 · answer #5 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iight homie, theres nothing wrong with you because at one point or another everybody is shy some more then others maybe their insure or just unsure what to say and that happens a lot. To practice talking to girls you like try talking to females more often, like yours sisters or female cousins, maybe you have a few female friends, get used to talking to them and it will just come natural when you want to talk to a girl you like.
Unsure what to conversate about? Try these...
Hey
what's good?, what's up?, what's popin'? or what it do?
I'm ...(your name)... i'm usually a shy person but for some reasonI just had to come over and talk to you..
Maybe compliment her on her clothing or jewlery or smile or eyes. (girls like that)
Then state the obvious like if shes in any of your classes or your friends are some of hers or vise a versa.
-DaOne'nOnly-
2007-03-17 16:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its just your nerves. If your good lookn then you should have no worries there. Just start low and work you way up to just walkn up to a girl and carrin on a normal conversation. Good Luck hope it helpd!!
2007-03-17 16:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by luh luh la reee! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw! i don't think you have a problem, i think you just need to chillllllll. just be yourself! i know that's easier said than done, but it's possible lol. don't worry about saying anything stupid. if you do, make a joke out of it, girls love guys who make them laugh. so even if something comes out of your mouth & sounds way dumb, laugh it off & i'm sure the girls will laugh too. :]
- nicolle
2007-03-17 16:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by nicollex0 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u don't talk to grls enough, i know dat guys who hav sisters r much better talking to girls
u'll probably get over it when a girl talks to u so just relax and think about something random while smiling and nodding ur head occasionally
2007-03-17 16:15:05 · answer #9 · answered by 100%angelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well are you a girl or boy?
If you're a girl. Maybe your bi.
If you're a guy, then you're just nervous, lol, relax, no big deal.
Not to sound mean or anything but your name sounds kinda like a nerd...just kidding!
2007-03-17 16:13:24 · answer #10 · answered by glamourous_aspen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋