I am 20, in the second half of my second year of college, and currently am going to school out of state.
After this semester, I will return to living with my parents, as I have for every other semester in college.
I have realized in my first semster away from home that I use my family as a crutch to make up for an actual social life. Basically, I commute to school, go to class, commute home, and spend my time with my family. Any friends I hang out with are friends from high school, and encounters with them are few and far between.
I have discussed moving out with my folks, but they strongly believe that doing so would require me to get a job which would jeopardize my studies. I disagree, since I have worked 30 hour weeks with a full courseload, but have not yet found a job that can support both my tuition and an apartment.
I am afraid of missing out on life because I use my family as a shield from a real college experience. What do you think, is it time to move out?
2007-03-17 16:04:59 · 9 answers · asked by buggin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't have to move away from your family to have a life of your own. You can go out & make new friends if you don't like hanging out with old friends.
But if you can afford to move out & still go to school & its what you want to do then you should do it.
2007-03-17 16:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you qualify for a school grant and are living on your own, you may be given a larger grant. When the amount of the grant is determined, it is based on the financial situation and whether or not you pay living expenses or your parents support you. My daughter is also 20 and in college. She goes to school full time and works part time. She will soon be in her own apt. Her idea, not mine, but I do recognize the need for her independance. Just keep in mind that your parents love you more that anyone on the face of this earth, and want what is best for you. Good luck!
2007-03-17 23:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.Do not move out.Be gratefull you have parents who CAN help you and are WILLING to.I wish I could have just went to college and not had to went to work.Working a full time job supporting yourself and going to school full time will wear you out, I know from experience, you have NO free time, and once you wear down you get sick easily.When that happens you miss school AND work and then the financial woes begin.Stick it out for a few more yrs, youll still be able to have a good social life after you graduate.We ALL should have enough humility to lean on one another, your parents may need to lean on you one day and you can be a crutch for them in their time of need.To be so independant that you will make things harder on yourself than they have to be is like cutting your nose off to spite your face.To reject help from those who love you and just want you to have an easier time thanmaybe they had is noble, and worth your respect.
2007-03-17 23:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are quite right.
You sound responsible enough.
Unfortunately even if you get a job there are no garantees that you will always keep it.
Do start working, but put your money into savings so you will have backup, when you move.
Ask the college if you can get work/study next semester.
That is the best way.
2007-03-17 23:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by jenshensnest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would definitely wait until I finish school. By that time you should be starting your career and money for an apartment will not be a issue. You don't want to rush it right now and struggle to the point where you may have to ask your family for money .
2007-03-17 23:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move out only if you have the financial stability. As for your parents, stop using them as an excuse to keep yourself from doing something. Expand your circle of friends. Go out, meet people on campus or other places. Change up your routine if you can't move out.
2007-03-18 00:29:18 · answer #6 · answered by Loup Garou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time to transfer to an out of state school. Look for a school that is top flight in your major and transfer there. I remember how my college days taught me how to be an independent adult. Lots of us made it...you can do it too. Though my mom cried a lot, it was time for her to cut the cord.
2007-03-17 23:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your choice to make. What would have been right for me might not be for you. But Id think long and hard about it. That is a big step to make. I agree with your parents though. Whats a couple more years? I think that staying with your parents would be smarter.....
2007-03-17 23:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by SchGrl79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being responsible is very rewarding so I'd say if you can afford it go for it.
2007-03-17 23:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋