How do you cope with loosing 3 people who were dear to you?

Answer 1

time

Answer 2

Unfortunately, nobody can tell you how to cope. There's no secret to it.

Two years ago, a friend of mine was shot to death in a robbery. On year later, another friend died of a heart attack at age 28 (!). Three weeks after that, another friend got struck by a car and died. And days after that, my aunt died from a coronary incident which led to a head wound. No, I didn't lose them all at the exact same time, but it was a short time in which to lose four people.

Through it all, the only things that made it bearable were the people around me. So if you've lost people, turn to those who are dear to you who are still with you. Lean on them. Talk to them. Cry with them. Don't be afraid to ask them for whatever you need.

Most importantly, remember that there is no formula for grief. I used to think there were stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, acceptance, etc. - but that's not true. It's different for everbody. Do whatever helps you remember and honor those you lost. Talk about it. Talking IS important. Crying is important too. Just remember that the people you lost would want you to carry on and enjoy life.

Answer 3

It's very hard. I my self lost 2 best friends on the same day. They both drowned in a resort lake. I was suppose to go with them but could not get out of work. The grieving process takes time. I cried for days even weeks later I still cried. The only thing I can say is time heals all wounds. You will never truly get over their loss. But you will survive. Just remember them as they were not as they are. You will be OK.... My condolences to you...George.

Answer 4

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well, first of all, definitley don't blame yourself..if you do. And if you need to cry, cry. Let it all out. If your not a Christian, try to be one. God really helps, because he's real, and there. Let loose your problems to him, talk to him, even if he doesn't answer. He'll help in the mysterious ways that he helps. He does. i'm proof of it. i'm 13 years old, and with....some family issues. well, a lot actually, but anyway. If i hadn't had God in my life, i would have killed myself. But because of God, I had something, and someone to live for. Please, believe me, and believe in him. You'll be able to cope with a new friend and force on your side.

also, that dark_pho girl who answerd your question too was right. There is no stage for a loss. (stupid health classes that they teach in school). Through your obstecales, you'll develop your inner being to cope with your loses. If you one of those poeple who need time, then take your time. Also, it feels really great to just tell someone, and have htem just listen. i used to think when people told me that it takes a great weight off you shoulders that that wasn't true. i thought, "how is revealing my deepest tragedies gonna make them turn into flowers?" but one day, i just yearned to tell someone, just one person. and i really did feel a lot lighter. *weee* lol. but really, the people around you can be more sympathetic than you think. and don't be sorry taht they died because death means they're going to meet jesus. :D:D:D:D (smileys)

Answer 5

Wow.I am going through the exact same thing right now.I have lost 3 loved ones since the end of December.It is so difficult,but try to remember that they would want you to be happy and continue living life.Keep your fond memories of them in your heart,and emulate their good qualities in your own life as a loving tribute to them.Best wishes.

Answer 6

it is hard to loose anyone that is close to you. you have the memories of them and think of them when you are feeling sad.i lost my daughter, my father and a nephew all within a year and a half of each other. when i start feeling sad or really down, i just think of something funny that happened, just think that they are in a much better place than we are.

Answer 7

Go ahead and grieve for them. Talk about them with other people who knew them. Be kind to yourself; make sure you take good care of yourself and even pamper yourself. Allow yourself to cry. Talk out loud to the loved one who's gone. Give yourself time to heal. It gets easier over time. You never quit missing them, but you learn to live with the loss. My heart goes out to you.

Answer 8

Sorry to hear that....Keep there memories alive....Take it day by day...Its not gonna get easier I wont lie to you....You will have your up an down days....Get counseling and therapy...You will have people tell you some off the wall stuff and you will have to let it roll off your back even if it annoys you...
God Bless~

Answer 9

It's really hard to describe.