what should i do? i was at a political party function where alcholhol is served and said something offensive..

Question

i am disabled and on a lot of meds for bipolar disorder. i volunteer for political campaigns for something to do and get a sense of service from the community. i approach a friend of mine and his g/f i just met and they were talking to 2 strangers (women) and i was really really buzzing and said "lordy lordy looks who's 40" b/c most of the people there were middle aged and i am 28 about to turn 29 (next to the big three- oh) next month. needless to say, the women all were EXTREMELY OFFENDED, and my friend asked how i got there, i drove , and he immediatly offered me a ride home. i accepted with gratitude. but now i feel like a complete idiot. should i bring it up to my friend and apologize? blame it on psych meds combined w/ alchohol? not show up for a few days and wait for my friend to call saying he misses me and they need my help? what should i do?

Answer 1

Unless something is missing here, I can't imagine that statement, however silly it might have been, offending someone so badly, that your friend had no choice but to be immediately compelled to take you home. Apologize straight up. No excuses. You said something inappropriate, own up to it, and apologize. Then drop it and get on with life.
If the medication you are taking for your disorder is leaving you 'buzzing' you may want to see your doctor and find out if the medication needs to be adjusted or changed.

We all suffer from "Open mouth, insert foot" on occastion, do not suffer too badly over this. Apologize sincerely and then get on with your life. This too, shall pass.

Answer 2

If your friend was one affected, apologize. Or simply call them and feel him out. If he says you embarrassed him by your drunken behavior, you need to apologize. You should also know NEVER to mix alcohol with medication for depression. That is asking for trouble. The women may have LOOKED 40 but may not have been. Then you offended them. It is doubtful you will be asked to volunteer with the same group of people. Still, you KNEW alcohol should not be taken when you are on any medication. You really don't have an excuse in my opinion.

Answer 3

It is always better to clear the air instead of leaving the 800pd gorilla swinging around freely. Bring it up with your usual good nature, say how it was meant to be a joke & ryhme rather than an insult. And since they are friends they can easily over look this. Though woman can be touchy about their age it is usually a faux pas to mention age in a social setting. But two ladies that were "offended" they will get over it and move on. Best to you!

Answer 4

Cut to the quick and get in touch with your friend and candidly express your sincerest apologies. If you have a good friend, he will understand. Things happen and what's done is done. Sometimes not expressing an apology can lead to awkward moments in a friendship, perhaps more so for the "offender" than for the "offendee". Maybe your friend has a sense of humour and the two of you can laugh at this. BTW, women can be so touchy about age. My goodness! Don't fret. I am sure we have all said worse things at one time or another in our lives. Best wishes!

Answer 5

If you are mixing your meds with alcohol you know how dangerous that is, and you should be ashamed of yourself for doing that, let alone anything you said. I'm hoping you are stable when you read this, and think about how dangerous your actions were. I rescued a friend from the middle of an intersection, directing traffic and avoiding the police because he decided to mix meds and alcohol.

To anyone who takes your side and excuses your behavior, shame on them, they are offering advice on a subject they know little of and understand less.

Answer 6

Well dear I too have bipolar disorder, but I can't imagine not having a handle on my behavior regardless of medication. HOWEVER, if you have bipolar disorder you shouldn't be drinking anyway especially if you are on medication.

I would apologize to the women you offended, and DO NOT offer the explanation of "I was drunk" or "I have bipolar disorder". That is a bad way to try and excuse yourself. e ure to be sincere.

Answer 7

Don't sweat it. Some People just can't handle the aging process, you touched a nerve in a day where plastic surgery and doing anything you can to look younger is very popular.At just about any party where booze is served, somebody always pisses off somebody.

Answer 8

When I read just your question I thought you would go on to say that you said something racist or really offensive! If someone gets very mad because you said "look who's forty", they need to get over themselves. I know you feel bad but all you can do is apologize to whoever invited you or the host for embarassing him or her. What you said wasn't a big deal to me though, you could've said much worst!

Answer 9

You made a mistake. Learn from it, make your apologies, and move on. You're 28 not 3, take your lumps like a grown up. In the future if you can't handle your drinks don't drink.

Answer 10

I would suggest you call immediately and apologize. The faster those things are done, the better, and the less harm done to friendship. Friendship is valuable. Don't excuse yourself too much. That takes something away from the apology.