I'll be retiring soon and don't want a party. I have expressed that fact and people seem to be offended. I just want to leave quietly.
2007-03-17 15:42:41 · 9 answers · asked by MsKenny 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
No, There is nothing wrong with not wanting a retirement party. I had a friend that didn't want one, none of us were bothered by his decision. He just wanted to leave quietly and so he did. He was a very like able friendly nice person and still is. We never badmouthed him for this, we respected his wishes. there is something wrong with people not wanting to respect another persons wishes with regard to this.
2007-03-17 15:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Robert D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll ask, "Why not". If you are shy, perhaps you should relent and let your friends say good bye to you. Also, if you cooperated with the party plans you will have some input and can keep it simple. Perhaps just a cake and coffee at the final coffee break.
OF COURSE it is up to you, and you could simply walk out, be angry, etc., but what real purpose would that serve. If you have really legitimate reasons for no party, then you must stand up and be blunt to those who are proposing the honor for you.
Personally I hope you change your mind, and that your retirement party is the beginning of a long and happy new life full of new experiences, as my retirement has been for me. Good luck.
2007-03-17 16:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wishes should be honored. Period. It is very nice of people who have worked with you to want to do something collectively to say 'goodbye' and wish you well. But if you do not want a party, then kindly restate that whenever you are asked and when the time comes, go. Happy retirement.
2007-03-17 16:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong. My father didn't want one either. He went out to dinner with my mother and I to celebrate. His coworkers want to have one, but he didn't want to make a big deal out of it because he didn't want to offend anyone else who just retired and didn't get a party.
2007-03-17 15:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that may be, but try to understand that the people around you are trying to show some sort of appreciation for your service, there should be a more gracious way of accepting the appreciation minus a party, perhaps ask them to join you in something you like to do?
of course, if you hate them and no longer want anything to do with them, that would be quite different, in which case what you are doing is about as polite as should be expected.
2007-03-17 15:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by relaxin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your privilege to have to not to have a party. You've told them and made it clear you want to leave quietly, they should respect your wishes.
Congratulations on your retirement
2007-03-17 15:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the important thing is WHY you don't want the party... Are you sad that you are leaving? I think people are offended because they want to celebrate, with you, all the hard work tat you have done. But I think that if you simply explain your situation, they should understand.
But no...it is not bad etiquette...
But it IS a wonderful excuse to have cake....keep that in mind...
2007-03-17 15:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Mr.Bill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be a matter of personal preference. Most of your co-workers probably want the opportunity to say goodbye and have a reason for a party.
2007-03-17 15:47:12 · answer #8 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. I wouldn't want people to celebrate my departure either. If you don't want to have a party to celebrate your life accomplishments then I agree with you one hundred percent. Let people let you have my retirement in peace.
2007-03-17 17:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by angelofmusic1337 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋