How bad is it to suppress anger?

Question

Because i suppress my anger ALL THE TIME. Sometimes when my parents make me angry i just shut up and hold it in. But at times i may just bust out and get really really mad and then i get into even more trouble. Its not uncontrollable rage its just rage. How bad can it be, i think it saves me and the person im getting angry at a lot of trouble. I also have to add that when i get angry, that is exactly what i do. Some of my friends say that i have anger problems but i dont see it.

i hold back cuz i really dont feel like hearing my parents crap about talking back to them.

Also i get angry kinda quick at times and when im angry at someone i dont like it usually ends up at me pounding their face in.

for those thinking that i just burst out randomly, it takes a lot of pissing me of to make me just burst. They have to keep at it for a while until im either going to have to beat their a$$ or yell at them. Trust me u want me to yell

Answer 1

I must commend you on how well your write. I am also glad that you recognize that you need help in controling your anger. First of all, let me pose a few questions to you. Don't you think that you make people angry? Don't you think that they have to bite their tongue, or clench their fist, or walk away when they are angry with you? Do you do all that is expected of you, at home and in school? Are you aceing all of your subjects? Are you polite, kind and respectful to people? Does your family hold family discussions, and if so do you participate, or do you just sit silently and seethe?

Believe it or not, but babies even experience anger. Take for instance when they are wet and hungry, or when they are cold or too hot. They express anger by crying or yelling. They use this same method when they don't want to be held or if they dislike someone. Toddlers throw temper tantrums when they feel angered.

Babies and toddlers have not yet learned how to express themselves in a positive way or control their anger, so they react in the ways that I have mentioned. Some children even refuse to speak or become unruly. This is what is called acting out.

Young adults, such as yourself, are at an age of awareness. This awareness can be of the body, or lifestyle, or the foreboding of the world. The pressures are on and they feel it. From their parents, as well as, from society. Their fears turn to anger. By facing fear, anger never has a chance to occur.

Parents are nothing but babies all grown up. Parents are young adults all grown up. Your parents have gone through many years of ups and downs. They have gone to school. They have struggled with their class subjects. They have felt rage and anger. Your parents have even angered their parents at one point in time.

Now that your parents are adults, they are responsible for controling their anger. They are responsible for teaching you how to deal with adverse situations that unnerve you. Speak to your parents when you are not feeling irritable, and let them know how they are emotionally affecting you. Maybe, they have certain illnesses that you do not know of that are affecting them.

Identify the people who make you angry and avoid them. If they are friends of yours now, don't be afraid of exing them off of your friendship list.

Oftentimes, it is hard for us to see how other people view us. Then too, we let our ego get in the way of us seeing what it is that they are seeing. Sometimes we do see what they are seeing, but too ashamed or bullheaded to admit it. Just think, many people are not even alive today, and all because they did not control their anger. As you read this, there is someone incarcerated now, who is praying to GOD that they be given another chance in life, just so they can prove that they can control their anger.

So, now that you have had a chance to air your feelings, go and embrace your mother and father, and kiss them and lather all the affection that you can muster on them. You only have your parents today. One day they may not be around. And to that, you say they anger you. But for now, don't worry, you'll be ok!

Answer 2

Suppress Anger

Answer 3

Holding in anger all the time is not good for you so you should find a positive outlet to let off some of that steam.
You could try running or some other sport. Physical activity is a great stress reliever. Writing is always a good idea. You could keep a journal or even an online journal such as
http://totally-pissed-off.blogspot.com
You are on the right road, because just by asking the question shows you are trying to understand where the rage is coming from and what you can do to calm it down. Keep searching and keep talking....it's the best therapy there is.

Answer 4

It is actually low intelligence that doesn't suppress anger. In fact the intelligent persons try to understand people types and don't get angry anymore. One of the biggest lies in our world is that depression is from suppressed anger. Depression is from your own brain releasing chemicals that are waste products after the bad expectations have been relearned. The brain hates to relearn even the simplest thing unless you are intelligent. Don't be surprised to see in ten years that your friends were not true friends.

Answer 5

It is very bad. That is why we hear on the news that qiut people "snap" and do something drastic. I always use to suppress my anger. The problem is that the issues never get resolved, unresolved problems built up, and the most minor incident will set us off. My son also suppresses his anger, He gets deathly quiet when he gets sick or something bothers him. Wild horses couldn't drag out what is wrong. I am trying to break him of this. So, no, I say bring up your troubles when they are fresh on your mind.

Answer 6

There's a little book called "taming the tiger within" that was helpful to me. If it's possible to get away from the situation that's causing all this stress and anger, that's probably the best thing to do.

Answer 7

Why hold back Your anger? let it out. Theres nothing to gain by suppressing your feelings,especially when others do something stupid towards you.f*ck them up.why not?or if you don't want to go that far than go to the gym and let it out on a punching bag.Seriously.f*ck them up.I guarantee you,its the quickest way to put people in check.

Answer 8

If you're a WUSS then it's bad. If you're a real man, then you can bottle it up and w/e it's gone in a few hours. Now don't confuse this w/ people throwing punches at your pride, knock those guys out.

But if you're just mad, then keep it inside, screw all that "it's bad to keep things inside, let them out" kind of talk; it's a woman's thing. Only weaklings can't handle their own feelings.

Answer 9

its okay to be angry but dont act out your anger or take out your anger on someone or something.

Heres the way to go - Mom!!! It really bugs me that I cant go to the movies with my buds....I feel like you dont trust me..

Its a real trick to say that youre angry but keeping yourself mellow...

A lot of times youre not going to win the argument BUT if you keep your cool, youll get farther along in getting what you want. Yahoo Answers could be your answer to dealing with your "rage"... Ask it here....and go ahead and write that youre really pissed. Youll get a lot of unbiased answers.

Answer 10

you dont see it as you are thinking that you hold it in
but you said at times you just burst
take an anger management course it helps
been there