Ok so i'm gonna try out to be a cheer leader next year, but my mom has to attend 1 meeting. Just 1 meeting and she won't go! First she said pull your grades up and I did, then she said it was expensive which I know but the school has a bunch of funraisers for that, which I told her about. Now she refuses to talk about it. Help!!
2007-03-17 15:36:15 · 7 answers · asked by Lala 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One things for sure, you won't get what you want by screaming or shouting. Speak calmly to her and if you can't do that, try writing her a note or letter. Explain how you feel and make certain you use the 'I' and not the 'you'. When you talk about how you feel and not about how you feel about what the other person is doing, you don't come across as accusing her of anything and she will be much more likely to listen to you.
Begin by telling her that you know she wanted you to bring up your grades and that you know why that's important. Tell her how you did that. Promise that you'll keep them up and tell her that you'll have to keep them up, or they won't let you continue cheerleading.
Tell her how you'll help her out in the house to make up for her having to spend money on cheerleading. And don't forget to list exactly what the fundraisers are to help with the expenses. Tell her how much you have your heart set on this. Explain that the exercise is good for you, you love to dance and will learn new dance routines. Tell her it's a great way for you to make new friends.
Ask her what else she would want you to do to be able to join. And then do what she asks you to do. If you really want this, you can find a good way to convince her... be mature about it because as a mom with 3 teens, I can tell you that if you came to me with an attitude, you'd get no where real fast! But if you came to me, either in writing or in person, were able to speak calmly and present good arguments for joining, I'd go to the meeting and we'd work out the finances.
So you go girl... you can do it! Cheer yourself on. And then cheer yourself when it works. Whatever you do, don't scream and yell and get a bad attitude... and if she won't talk about it, write her a letter.
2007-03-17 15:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
grrrrrr! Parent can be so stubborn. I am one and have been for 29 years. I would try again to get through to your mom. Ask her if when she has a few minutes could you talk and just ask her again what her concerns are and address each one. Maybe offer to run an errand or do something so she has more time to come to a meeting. Let her know this is really important to you. Good luck with your Mom! I know for me sometimes the last thing I want is another thing to do! Maybe she is feeling like that.
2007-03-17 22:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by breezy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is there another adult like a grandparent who can help you talk to your mom? Maybe your mom is jealous, maybe she is depressed and doesn't want to see you happy, misery loves company. I would tell her that this really means a lot to you and you have met her halfway by picking up your grades. Let her know that it's better that you're on a cheerleading squad and not running around on the heels of some boy.
2007-03-17 23:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U can still go out for cheerleading without your moma, just talk to your coach and the coach will carry u home after practice if u ask.
Tell the coach your situation.
If its your dream, go for it whether Moma shows up or not.
Just tell your Moma, u will talk to your coach about her not wanting to attend the meeting, she may have a change of tune then, but really u can do this with out moma.
2007-03-17 22:40:57 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop nagging her about it. You've given her all the information, now lighten up.
The more you talk to her about it, the more solid she is going to be in her resolve to say no.
Keep your grades up and find a part-time job. That will show her you are sincere in wanting to become a cheer leader.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 22:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Parenting is not a exact science. Decisions are based on experience and learning...Maybe she's afraid for you and being over protective or maybe not...give her time or bring a cheerleader home with you and introduce her.
2007-03-17 22:42:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can your Dad attend?
2007-03-17 23:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by jenshensnest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋