please anser this question?!!!!!........
2007-03-17 15:25:05 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you dont
"Honor They Mother and Father"
2007-03-17 15:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one! Most would say never tell your Dad off, honor your father and Mother, respect your elders, and stuff like that. Don't get me wrong those are good points, very good points indeed! However, only a fool would believe that just because someone is your parent or older than you, they can't be horribly wrong! Look at our President for example! I respect the man more than he will ever know, but his decisions of late are suicidal! So how do you tell your father he is completely off base? He has no idea of what is actually the wisest move to make in a certain area of your life and you "must" set him straight before he gets this idea to become gospel? Probably the same way I would have to talk to the Prez. With diplomacy. Tell him that he is wise in so many areas, that you are having a difficult time telling him that this area is not wisdom. This area is causing you to question your respect for him. And tell him you hate yourself for questioning this respect. Now you will have his attention! Now in the most intelligent way you can, discuss in a low tone the way he should be thinking. Tell him after everything is said that you love him, and always will, but until his thinking changes you can ot follow his advice any more. Tell him that from now on only "Delux-version" can give the best advice! lol ;)
2007-03-17 22:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously must care about your Dad since you care about his feelings, yet the fact that you use the words "tell him off" shows that you must have a lot of anger built up. Why do you want to tell him off in the first place? Do you just want to vent, and have the last word, or really get to the root of the problems? You need to ask yourself this question very honestly,cause if you just want to vent you'll be asking this same question again and again.
If you want to really solve your issues, wait till your both calm. You might even want to write your feelings in a letter. That way you can make sure you don't sound hostile, but that you want to improve your relationship. You want him to be open to the idea of working on having a better relationship,not just defending himself against criticism.
If you finally do get together, make sure you only tell him how you feel, not what he is doing wrong. This is called an "I" message and will not make him defensive. For example, if he calls you names, say "I feel bad about myself when you call me names" not "You're always calling me names". If he starts getting defensive, don't argue. Just tell him, "I need you to really listen to what I'm telling you and if you can't then maybe we should do this another time."
Anyway, good luck!
2007-03-17 23:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by LISELDA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't, you can not tell anyone off without the risk of hurting someones feelings. Instead of going straight to the defensive why not talk to your Dad about your problems and try to come up with a solution.
2007-03-17 23:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by Gee-Gee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell your dad off. Ever. You don't even have that right. You can tell him you are displeased about something, but do it an a calm and respectful manner. If it's something that's not major maybe you could just forget about it to avoid the conflict and hurt feelings all together.
2007-03-17 22:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be able to tell him how you feel and be adult about it.
You have the right to your own opinion and ideas. It's okay to express that to your dad.
Just don't be a brat about it..parents hate that.
good luck
2007-03-17 22:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by tragedys_kiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋