I wanted to join a branch of the military but as far as i know they don't alow single parents AT ALL! is there any branches (Reserves??) that alow a single mother?
2007-03-17 15:22:11 · 11 answers · asked by Gypsy 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I can appreciate the fact that you want to join the military and proudly serve your country. I think it is great to have women in the military. And yes you can join as a single mother, without having to lose custody of your child other than while you are in school.
With that being said. I think you should reconsider joining as a single mother. There are a lot better options out there for you and your child.
The military is a very hard and demanding life for each and every person in it. It is even harder on a single mother and especially her child. You could go to work one morning and get shipped out to the field for a week or more. You could get deployed to a combat zone, or a hardship tour where you can't take your child with you. Is it really worth losing all that time with your child to join the military?
When I was in the Army I had two children and my ex-wife and I figured out that in the five years my wife and I were together while I was in the military, I spent approximately 2 years and 3 months with my family. I went to Korea for a year (no family allowed, unless high ranking), seven months after I got back from Korea I was sent to Iraq for 7 Months, I got sent to school (PLDC) for a month, had several field exercises in that time lasting up to a month, then I got sent to BNCOC for four months. All in all it was hard on my family and my marriage, she became completely independent and didn't want me around anymore. It was easier for her if I was gone, since I was gone most of the time anyway.
From my experience, I would recommend that you try to find a different line of work for your childs sake. In today's military you could get deployed, even as a reservist or guard and never come home again.
2007-03-17 15:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by Steve T. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey the wilds. the army is not a 24/7 job. its not like she will never see her kid again. There are plenty of 8-5 jobs in the army, yes there will be times when she has to go in the field. She will need someone to be the guardian. She will have a great job with great benefits and provide a great future for her child. Yes she will miss out on some things. But will better herself and in 20 years retire or just do a 3 or 4 year hitch learn a skill, maybe go reserves or national guard after her inlistment and then get a civillian job. maybe even meet a good man while in the Army. and start a whole new life. dont step on someones dreams just because its not for you. Let her live her life and you just keep flipping burgers for 7 bucks an hour. It wont be easy for her at first, but you tell me about another job that pays for her to live off post. i paid 15 bucks a month for an apartment when i was in ..the army paid the rest and i did not live in a dump, I had a 2 bedroom place with a fireplace pool alarm system and a gym. Name another job that gives you extra money for your kids or hubby and gives you a 4 week vacation every year and will pay for you to go to school. Yes a child needs a parent. But a parent that will never get laid off and never do wthout.
2007-03-17 15:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by recon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the first I have ever heard about not being able to join if you are a single mother.
I think the military is a great choice for someone who wants to provide a better life to their child (and for themselves of course!).
The military will provide you with extra pay to help compensate with daycare, so while you're at work, your child will be cared for. I am concerned with your plan for basic training (it was 6 weeks when I went through, think it's 8 now)... who will cae for your son for that time? Also, if you are a single parent, the military requires you to have a Family Care Plan.. this basically outlines who will care for your child while you are deployed. Hopefully you have a relative or close friend who you could trust to watch him (remember, you could be gone upwards of a year!). Lots of military members cope with being a single parent, so IT CAN BE DONE! But just like with any job, it's not going to be easy. I've found the military *tries* to help you in any way possible, but "the mission comes first". If they need you to work night shift, but you say that you can't because you have a son?? Well, they will *try* to maybe find someone else, but you can't always get special treatment because you have a child, you know what I mean?
Anyway, I hope it works out for you... I don't have any children, but if you have any questions about being in the AF, let me know. I've been active duty for 8+ years now.
2007-03-17 16:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband said to check into the reserves or national guard ( Army) ,As a previous recruiter he knows that you do have to sign over custody of your child while you are at basic, advanced training, and then moving to your permanant duty station, after which time you may get custody back . I would recommend waiting until you receive housing before bringing your child, and securing daycare. Also make sure you choose a field thats less or non deployable , especially in these times. . I know some people on here are saying you can join, but when my husband did that job he had single women join and all had to sign over some sort of guardionship-at least in the Army.Good Luck.
2007-03-17 16:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by kaesy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They do allow single parents, but you have to sign your rights to your child over to a guardian. There is some kind of family care plan issue...
If you are divorced or the father is paying child support on this child, he may get full custody rights and you'll be paying child support and having little visitation if this happens. If the other half isn't in the picture, sign the rights to your mother and get the kid back after basic training. Of course, you have to have a plan/someone to take care of the child at all times in case of deployment/field exercises.
That's why they stay away from single mothers. It isn't easy.
2007-03-17 15:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by Mullah Mike 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
the air force has plenty but seriously you miss too much time I'm not single and I was gone 4 times last year Texas,Vegas Canada and Iraq I have two kids and they didn't like being left with dad at all though I found out chocolate milk and hoho's is dinner to my husband =[ even for married couples I've known a few that there children had to live with one of there parents while they were both gone. not worth it.
2007-03-17 15:49:55 · answer #6 · answered by JoJo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Use a limited power of attorney to give your children to your mother for six months.
Join the army! After basic training and you are assigned to your duty station, get you child back, it will become your dependent and be covered by all military benefits!
There are females in the service that got pregnant after entering the service. All are not married!
2007-03-17 15:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I quite have in no way utilized for a passport so i do no longer comprehend if it demands the two mothers and dads to sign off on it. circulate on your close by positioned up place of work and ask for applications. the different ingredient you're able to do is hire protection stress criminal and ask them what you may do.
2016-10-02 07:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a place to put your child (such as with the dad) you can join. The military needs to be able to count on you to be where you need to be. There is no such thing as "I can't find a baby sitter" in the military.
2007-03-17 15:28:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
they will allow a single mother but you have to sign over custody fully when you go and you also have to have a waiver to join after that you can talk to a recruiter about it and they will help you but please dont trust everything they say
2007-03-17 18:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋