sometimes i think there's something really wrong with how i was raised.. i know i'm an adult and i need to take responsibiltiy but i'm 28 years old and never had a serious healthy relationship and neither has my brother 25.. he's even worse than me because he's never had a girlfriend ever.. i've had boyfriends but they always treat me very bad.. i'm not bragging but we are both very attractive and are from a wealthy family so it's not that people aren't attracted to us.. for some reason we don't know how to make a relationship with someone else.. i'm more worried for my brother than i am for me because he doesn't have any friends or a girl.. the weird thing is, my parent's have been married 32 years and are very social.. i'm not sure what's wrong with us..
2007-03-17 15:13:26 · 6 answers · asked by Lisa L 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well, if you grew up in an unhealthy environment, you were probably not given the best social examples to learn from. Children learn from their environments as I am sure you know. Also, there are probably some self-esteem issues for both you and your brother if you weren't treated nicely by your parents. It may be why you have been attracted to men who weren't good to you and it may also explain why your brother isolates. He may be very shy and/or very afraid of trusting people. I know that I tend to gravitate to men who don't treat me very well because it's what I know and am comfortable with. It's a bad cycle that needs to be broken. I suggest therapy for you both.
2007-03-17 15:25:39 · answer #1 · answered by ppaper.wingss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just have't met the right person yet. Look at it this way....you are still young and you still have time to get to know yourself and meet a person that wil compliment you. Being attractive and/or being wealthy doesn't make you a quality individual. Character does. Why don't you ask your parents what makes their realionship so successful? Maybe your parents can share their dating experiences with you and your brother so that you can gain some insight. What are you doing that is contributing to your unsuccessful relationships?
2007-03-17 22:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by FemFatale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you both just haven't met that special someone yet! Some people in this world can and are ment to be single, you know! Help your brother to find at least one good friend, and maybe you'll be surprised and meet someone while doing so! Go online find a chat room for your brother and just let him talk to people with the same interests! They don't have to meet or give personal info to each other, just help boost his social standing! Same for you! :)
2007-03-17 22:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by All Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe your brother is shy..Is he attracted to woman? No offense....
As for you look back at the men you have dated and there may be some similarities in them and that's where you need to change it ...look for someone who is willing to treat you right...you may consider getting some counseling....No amount of money can make you happy....
Keep your head up....
2007-03-17 22:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by **Mishelly** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY don't your relationships workout? What is it that causes them to go wrong? Commitment issues? Trust issues? Insecurity? Nonsocial? Non-compatibility?
2007-03-17 22:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are late bloomers im sure you will open up later on.
2007-03-17 22:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Krayden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋