I like my closest guy friend and he likes me. But we have been really close friends for over 2 years. He asked me out, but I am scared that something bad will happen and we won't even be friends anymore. I mean we said even if we broke up we would still be friends, but I know it won't be the same! Do you think it would be a good idea to go out with him or should we just be friends?
2007-03-17 15:04:44 · 20 answers · asked by Holly Ann 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing better than being in love with your best friend and getting it back. If you already have trust in all ways between each other, this is what makes it work. The other stuff is easy. A friendship after a break-up is difficult no matter what. But why risk missing out on possibly the best relationship you could ever have in your life?
2007-03-17 15:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Daystar9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been friends with him THAT long, nothing bad CAN happen. The two of you know each other too well.
I think it would be the perfect date.
Neither of you will feel nervous so you both can enjoy each other's company durring the date without feeling awkward.
I think it's a great idea. You just might end up with a more romantic relationship.
If the two of you, at some point, changed your minds about the romantic relationship, you can EASILY go back to being friends.
This happened to me so I know. We were friends for 3 years then became a romantic couple. We stayed that way for 2 years but decided to go back to being friends.
It worked. We are still friends today after years have gone by. If we hadn't been such close friends to begin with, that never would have been possible to go back to being friends.
You have NOTHING to lose but you MAY gain a fantastic boyfriend that will love you no matter what.
That's what happens when friends become lovers after a long time.
Good Luck.
2007-03-17 22:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From experience...i have dated my best guy friend like 8 times...and all times we have broken up...but still today we are teh greatest friends you could find (according to everyone at school)
anyway
I say give him a chance...at least you know him and he knows you really well then you will actually have somthing to talk about when you guys talk...
if things don't work out they don't work out...at least you tried
just never be afraid to move on cause if he truely is your best friend...he will always be there for you to run to with make up running down your face adn the first thing he says is
" who's butt ami kicking?"
Frankly my best guy friend that i have dated 8 times (his name is blake) he has sat there and let me cry on his shoulder so many times it isn't funny even after we broke up so many times
but anyway
good luck
i hope it works out!
~shannon~
2007-03-17 22:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Mystery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys don't try advancing your relationship, he will likely get frustrated after awhile and will start to drift off. As much as he wants to be your friend, he really would like to take it to the next level. Give it a shot. If it doesn't work out, then maybe taking some time off will be in order, then go back to being friends.
2007-03-17 22:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Gregory O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be freinds and if you like go out but take it real slow you dont want to rush into things because then everything will just burn to ashes faster but if you take it slow you guys will see how your feelings for eachother change wheather it is in a bad,weird or even good way and if you dont like how things are going you guys could break things off while you both are talking it slow and go back to being freinds without it being akward
take it slow and dont rush things because you never know
sometimes the best longer lasting realtionships start off as good freinds
i wish you the best of luck
p.s you'll never know if you dont try
2007-03-17 22:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by xoxo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate. If he's your friend, you can talk.
I've been there and still am. My best friend and I became lovers, and in time, we saw it wouldn't work out and we are STILL best friends, without being lovers. It can happen only if you keep talking. If it seems wrong for either of you, drop it.
Let me tell you, a good friend is worth more than a dozen lovers!! Believe me.
2007-03-17 22:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by redman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its already not the same, because he sees you differently!
Nothing ever stays the same and it can't!
If he ask you out then he really wants to get to know you, in a biblical way, so it's already too late to go back.
2007-03-17 23:07:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thing that u should go out with him, because if you don't he is gonna get shy around you and u will not like it. And if u break up, u can still be friends depending in how your relation ship went.
2007-03-17 22:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Chisty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never know, unless you try!if u loose him eventually, there are still so many people to make friends with just don't do the first move to make others hate you. dont expect everybody will like you thats not reality. The key is be yourself!
2007-03-17 22:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by ysabelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still try . Both of you like each other more than just friends. Why not take the frienship to the next level. BUT........ take it slowly. Don't just go jump in bed.
If you don't try, both of you will keep wondering for the rest of your life, if ... if.... if...... the question that will keep bugging your mind.
2007-03-17 22:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by Keke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋