I really want A.I.M but my mom wont let me,i asked her 4 times already! I and nice and a happy girl my parents tell me that all the time. i get good grades A's and B's and they are very pleased with me, but my mom still wont let me get A.I.M!
All my friends have it and i dont! I can't hide it from her because i know she would find out, and sometimes she uses my computer, I ddont know waht to do!
She always says that she'll talk it over with my dad and they never do, she knows its free too
2007-03-17 15:00:13 · 18 answers · asked by lunamuna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I just look at ur profile, u have an instant messenger in ur profile.
2007-03-17 15:03:37 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfpack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss why she won't let you have it. My guess is that she's afraid your grades will fall and that you'll be spending a lot of time on there. She's also probably afraid of perverts and predators who use AIM and other services to target young teenagers. Maybe you can come up with some solutions that would make her happy. Promise to limit your time on AIM each day, to about 30 minutes. Promise not to go on AIM until your homework is done. Make sure AIM doesn't interfere with family time, and tell her you'll only use it every other weekend and only on school nights once you are done with everything else you need to do. And most importantly, let her know that you'll only use it to talk to people you already know, that you won't let any personal information about yourself get out there, and that you'll let her know if somebody you don't know tries to contact you. I know the stuff I told you to do is a pain, but hey, if it works and she lets you get AIM, then it's better than not having it at all. Good Luck.
2007-03-17 15:05:54 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you could try asking her in front of your father and that would pretty much force the issue of them discussing it...just say something like "Mom, have you and Dad had a chance to talk about me being able to use AOL Instant Messenger yet?" and make sure your father is present and hears you say that.
After that, if you don't get a decision from the 2 of them soon, it's probably a no-go. Just use email....it's not as fast, but it's effective just the same.
2007-03-17 15:07:13 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is probably concerned that you will use it to make contact with unknown boys...she probably links it to the public chat rooms and doesn't understand how it works. Wait until she is in a very good mood and then approach her in an adult way. Say something like "Mom, I really would like to talk to you about getting IM. I would like to know why you won't let me have it?" Then listen to what her concerns are. If she says she worries about who you will be chatting with, simply explain to her how it works. She may not know that you can only chat with those people that are listed in your buddy list...your friends and family. If she doesn't seem to really have a reason for not wanting you to have it, then perhaps you should talk to your dad. Good luck with this.
2007-03-17 15:15:43 · answer #4 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure that she has a really good reason for not allowing you to get IM...ask her what that reason is, and maybe then you will understand...
THere are a lot of sick people looking to prey on young people, and the worst part of it is, you think you are tlaking to someone your age when really you are talking to someone much older trying to hurt you....THis really happens everyday!! It is being rumored that Myspace's days are numbered just because of stunts like that....
and if your mom finds out that you went behind her back and did what you wanted anyway after she told you no, then I am sure that that will not make her happy and when you older and you need her trust for bigger things than IM such as driving and dating. Then that trust will just be harder for you to earn back...
SO relax, and if you have something that you want to talk to your friends..lcall them. most probably from your cell phone...haha
2007-03-17 15:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by jess_pickel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, my parents didnt want me to get it either, but after showing them some stuff they let me get it. They said their reason for not letting me get it is that there are wierd people out there and it can also give your computer ALOT of viruses. BUT tell them that there is a feature where you can enter the screennames that you would only like to talk to you and nobody else can besides those names. AND you could get a virus detector ( a good 1, do research about it---some of them are viruses themselves) to detect any possible viruses it could carry. GOOD LUCK
2007-03-17 15:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your age, but please understand that your parents are wanting to protect you. The internet is a great thing, but remember that it too is used by people wanting to harm others. Just because your friends have it doesn't mean you have to. Give it time- don't sneak behind your parents back, if you do, and when they find out, they will never trust you again.
2007-03-17 15:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by rapger54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mutually as she is at paintings fry the hen, make the salad, peel the potatoes and boil them till finally achieved , have dinner achieved whilst she gets domicile, or you are able to consistently make some manwich, my grandmother had 2 sons and any ingredient a woman ought to do, they might do to so perhaps your mom thinks you mustn't prepare dinner or sparkling the kitchen when you consider which you're a guy,at 14 she could have taught you to prepare dinner, many of the perfect chefs are men, choose for it, in basic terms shop the oven mitts reachable for warm pots and pans and shop a low fire. stable good fortune.
2016-10-02 07:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mother and stop whining. You may be this good, happy, A-average student right now, but if my guess is right, your mother is trying to make sure you stay that way. Too much time wasted on the computer could change your grades in a hurry, and not for the better.
2007-03-17 15:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
she's concerned about online predators and your safety. nothing can be gained from IM anyway. those people aren't really your friends, they're just other bored kids like you who will pretend to be something they're not. and if it's a real person that you know, just call them on the phone.
2007-03-17 17:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might not let u ge tit becuz sum people on the internet are sick and perverted. not eveyone but a lot of people are. there are 30+ men online every day lookin fa lil girls so yea just show them ur responsible and use common sense
2007-03-17 15:05:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋