OK I'll try to make this short. I dated my ex for a short time then HE ended it. He's 26, I'm 21. He has lots of experience with dating, while he was my first kiss & first bf. Our relationship was so innocent, cuddling in his room, holding hands, kissing. We never had sex cuz he knew I wanna save sex for marriage. He would still say hi to me on msn even though HE ended it. It has been over for more than ONE YEAR. 2 months ago, he called me, after one yr. & wanted to make plans together so we could see a movie sometime. We set a date, he picked me up & after the movie he took me home. On the drive home, when I asked him why he wanted to see me, he said that he wants to "see me every once in awhile". I felt disrespected so when I got home I said "bye forever" to him on msn. Then I felt bad so a week later I said sorry to him on msn. Since then I have said hi to him 2 on msn. Then a few days ago he said hi to me on msn & he wanted to know what I had been up to.
2007-03-17 14:33:23 · 10 answers · asked by Hottie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's 26 & next year he's moving out of his parents & moving in w/ a friend. He also is getting his MBA & he just got a very good job. Meanwhile, I'm still in university & living w/ my parents. Our life paths are so diff. so why does he continue talking to me, how does this benefit him?
2007-03-17 14:33:57 · update #1
Because he cares about you and respects you r decision to save yourself for marriage. He prob has a lot of feelings for you and realizes neither one of you are ready to commit but wants to keep in contact because he cares and maybe figures one day you may hook up for good. Most guys would just forget about an ex unless they cared. My suggestion is to just respond to his messages when he sends them--go on with life otherwise- and see what the future brings. Sounds like he is great guy and giving you space to grow.
2007-03-17 14:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you were not meant to be lovers but perhaps friends
you had to at least had things in common to go out in the first place. maybe he just needs a shoulder to lean on with all that he has going on...
or he is just trying to keep the door open for a booty call..
not sure what kind of person he is hope this helps you decide
2007-03-17 14:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you. Its rare you will find a guy that respect you for wanting to wait till marriage b4 sex. And for him to still speak to you after all that time means he respect you as a person. Honestly I think you should give up the booty. I mean all the elements of a good guy is there. He respects you and yall are friends and even after you got mad for no reason he still talk to you...give him the butt, stop frontin.
2007-03-17 14:47:48 · answer #3 · answered by good_business08 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he just wants to stay friends.....
YOU obviously still love him.. and you need to decide if that will hurt you too bad and if you are only seeing him for the hope that you will get back together, which most likely is not going to happen.. if you are okay with that and still want to be his friend/acquaintance, then you can see him every so often. i don't think this is disrespectful at all.. i mean you're not Dating him or his girlfriend anymore... but he just wants to stay friends. and i think that's all it sounds like sorry! best wishes to ya!!
2007-03-17 14:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by coolio 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he broke it off because you would not have sex. It sounds like he keeps checking in so to speak to see if you have weakened in that area yet. I would not waste my time with him, its obvious he just wants to use you. You sound like a good woman of integrity and morals and I applaud you for that. Break it off and stand your ground. He had his chance and now its his loss.
2007-03-17 14:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by kerryjonjon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Hottie, He must really want you and still think about you when he is with other girls. I'd feel really special about that! NOT!I would stop chatting with him in every way and end it for good.
2007-03-17 14:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because he still loves you and/or he probably broke up with you for somebody else and it didnt work out he is probably treating you like a rebound girl question him and ask why did he wait so late to come to see you
2007-03-17 14:39:35 · answer #7 · answered by shiauna2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be trying to keep you warm so he can go back to you if he wants to. Be careful, he sounds shady to me.
2007-03-17 14:39:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kynthia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he keeps contacting you because you keep picking up.
how about you not ick up for once and see what happens.
stop leading him on..cut the ties for good.
2007-03-17 14:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by LS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"OK I'll try to make this short." ... LMAO
2007-03-17 14:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋