Basically I had a serious realtionship with this wounderful girl for a year. We were long distance yet we were able to keep your love going. After a year however we broke up and were just best friends for a few months. We promised to tell eachother everthing but I didnt keep to this promise. I slept with another girl who soon became obsessed with me (scary) so I dropped it and when she found out I was going to visit my X, she finds info about her and tells her everything! I lied due to me being an idiot and then got caught in the lie in a horriable fassion. A few months went by and we built our friendship back but soon again I slept with the SAME girl. (if your a guy you get it, to easy and Im to intoxicated). This happened and I just let it go and never talked to this person again. My X came to visit me, actually ran into the girl, hung out with her and found out- I confessed, and now our everything is over. Is there anything to do? I love this girl, but I screwed this big time.
2007-03-17 14:21:16 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Meeing up once ------ Doesn't matter.
But twice --------------- U MESSED UP With Ur life, man.
Now there is a chance for re-relationship........................
U tell ur self to stay alone for at least 6 months, no girls, no love, no sex.
She will come back, just tell her about your plan.
Life it self is a chance......
2007-03-17 14:40:24 · answer #1 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered trying to apologize to her? If you love her, why keep on sleeping with the other girl? I'm pretty sure that girl that you slept with twice is trying to blackmail you! Just forget about that girl you slept with, and regret what happened. You should probably not buy her anything when trying to show that your really sorry because girls don't like it when boys show their love through their money. I'm pretty sure you'll figure it out. The question is: Think about how long you've liked her. How much do you even know about her? Do you even consider to marry her? If so, become friends and work your way there. Having sex is not the answer to everything. Unless if she wants it, go for it. If she only wants sex from you, she doesn't know how to go through a serious relationship. Think about it. You'll figure it out. I hope this helps! Tell her how you feel! :-)
2007-03-17 14:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope - you had your second chance. If she was to give you a third it would never be the same. Why not? She can never trust you. Confessing after you are caught is still keeping a secret. If you would have told her directly after the second time she probably still would have kicked you to the curb (deservedly - I am a guy and I still think your 'got to drunk' reason is an excuse). But - If you would have been up front she at least might be thinking to herself 'at least now I know I can trust him to tell the truth'. Live and learn, friend. Some of lifes hardest lessons come from lovers who have gone.
2007-03-17 14:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you can fix the problem either quit blaming it on the alcohol and stand up and be a man and just confess and apologize to her and if you don't like this girl that was obsessed then why did you sleep with her again? That is a tough one to overcome because women don't take crap like that lightly. You need to come up with something very very creative to show her you messed up big time but you are sorry and show her that as well and kiss the ground she walks on. It is gonna take time to heal those wounds for her and you have to understand that you will have to build trust back in the relationship if she does forgive you which won't be easy trust me on that...If you really care for her start showing her and quit being a cheater!
2007-03-17 14:28:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow i cannot believe you did this twice with the same backstabbing tatteltale girl!wow she musta really been in love and decided to manipulate the situation to har advantage. if your girl was cool with everything as long as you were honest
about everything, you should have been open with her you insulted her intellegence not once but twice. the best thing you can do is remain friends with her.if she will let you and chalk it up as a learning experience.cause you made a fool out of her twice and im assuming the girl is smart right ? she wont let it happen again im sure. sorry about your luck. and if you r going to do something be honest about it!
2007-03-17 14:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by brown_eyed_girl_mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be rude, but the girl that you did that to would most likely not trust you again. The best thing you could take from the whole situation would be to learn from it so you wouldn't do it the next time. I'm sorry for sounding mean, but its true. You can't trust someone that's cheated on you. Learn your lesson and move on.
2007-03-17 14:26:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you unload her?For different chicks then no you cant get her back.because you had no time then mabe.What different reason did u unload her for? in case you dumped her two times that early interior the courting then needless to say you do unlike her guy.you merely did no longer discover all and assorted else and your desperate so which you pick her because of the fact she's like merely there.
2016-12-18 16:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WoW. You really have some making up to do! it probably wont be easy getting her trust back, but u should try. Show and prove to her that u mean wat u say and that you wanna make this work.
P.S if u see this girl that u slept with before, RUN!!! u dont want the same thing happening for a third time.
2007-03-17 14:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
have you ever tried keeping a promise??that is one thing girls depend on the most besides you being faithful,drunk or not that was no excuse for sleeping with the other girl,need to control your drinking or stop completely. try talking to her again and keep promises made to her and see what happens,also ask her out to a nice dinner and dancing and beg for forgiveness,roses will help too.
2007-03-17 14:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by davec4real_02 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So i dont get why you and the girl are just freinds and u sleep with another girl and she gets mad and you should of just told her u have a girlfreind and u werent cheating because u were just freinds and tell her i never did this when i was dating u im sooo sory and i will never do it agan
2007-03-17 14:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, ive probably drank and smoked more than you have ever thought of, and ive done a lot of stupid things while doing so. I do have the self control not to do that, when i have a gf who doesnt approve of it. You will learn, eventually, or you will just have to find someone who doenst mind that kind of relationship, meaning that she will be cheating on you too.
2007-03-17 14:25:45 · answer #11 · answered by tomhale138 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋