I met him when we were both drunk at the uni club, he kept coming by when he was drunk, but now has started to come over sober. He says he can't control him self when he is near me and likes me. Trouble is, he has a girlfriend who he lives with just down the road. I have been the adult and told him to leave when it got hot and heavy. We have slept together though. His girlfriend chucked me out of the bar tonight (small town) and now i just want to carry it on even more, its cruel i know. but the girl inside me tells me to stay clear and it's not fair on her. So should i carry on this "affair" or stay well clear?
2007-03-17 14:12:40 · 22 answers · asked by Confused Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay clear if he thinks you worth it then he will leave the one he is with. Dont short change yourself. Your better than that!
2007-03-17 14:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away fast. Come on now you don't want to ge the label of a whore or a home wrecker do you. I'm form a small town too and know that everybody knows everybody. When the news gets out that you do this then it could ruin your reputation around town. I've seen it happen time and time again. I'm sure that there has to be more than one guy in the town that's worth datin g or sleeping with. Isay leave it alone. Besides how would you feel if you were the one that was being cheated on?
2007-03-17 21:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, having a man loving to have sex with you is not credit to you. He is disrespecting both of you because he can. Stop this Sh**. He thinks he's a lover.
Unless he is spending time (other than bedtime), providing emotional support and financial support, Put him down! I bet his give his girlfriend all of that.
You may think keeping the affair going will further anger his girlfriend, that is so high school, but it will be you that actually ends up being hurt.
2007-03-17 21:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is doing this to her who is to say he won't turn right around and do the same to you...I say unless you can handle the drama leave...but it is going to get ugly and he may be playing you both so watch out. I know it is easier to say "Leave" but if I were in the same situation I wouldn't want to leave either but know that is what is right. If he is saying stuff to her about you that isn't good either. She is checking you out at a bar for goodness sake! I say take that positive energy you have and put it into a relationship you see going somewhere other than down the drain.
2007-03-17 21:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooo that is cruel.. I would kick your *** too.. but the girlfriend is stupid as well. Do they have any kids together? Just think if it this way... how would you feel if you were in love with a man and he was doing the same to you? This reminds me of Jerry Springer! Why would anyone want to be with a man who does that to two women? I know it is hard right now but do you really want to pursue anything with a TRUE cheater? If he did not want to be with his girlfriend then he would have already spit it with her and started something with you. He is playing game, but maybe you aren't good enough to realize it...
2007-03-17 21:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Tara Bara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if he's not married then it's not so bad because he's not truly committed to any one female.So,as long as there are no kids involved in this them I would say that it's okay.Now if he's so special to you and you are really feeling this dude then make him yours and let him know that you are not going to be number two to any other female.I mean who wants to be number two don't you think that you are worth more than that?If it's okay with you then let him keep up his dirty deeds but,someone will end up unhappy in the end of this affair in progress.
2007-03-17 21:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by marcelleaandbryan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without being cruel let me tell you two things from experiences I am not proud of : 1) if he cheated on her most likely he'll cheat on you; 2) chances are she'll come after you in some way if he breaks up with her and the consequences with probably not be good. You deserve better than someone that would treat their girlfriend the way he is treating her anyhow. Please let it go and move on. Good luck.
2007-03-17 21:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay well clear. If he wanted to be with you he'd dump the girlfriend. And the fact that he cheats on his girlfriend doesn't say much about his character. And the fact that you want to sleep with a guy who has a girlfriend doesn't say much about yours.
2007-03-17 21:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay clear. If you don't, you're just the ho he's sleeping with. If he really wanted to be with you other than sex, he'd dump the g/f. He hasn't. He likes the physical and that's all you'll be and now you'd be a tramp that sleeps with attached guys. Nice.
2007-03-17 21:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he is really interested in you, then he will chuck his girlfriend and seek you out! But don't go looking for trouble! Stay low...and if he is really into you....he will come find you!! Trust me I know about this stuff!!!
2007-03-17 21:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋