My sister left me her kids to watch while shes in the hospital, now shes dieing what should i tell her kids?

Question

My sister,Tally's, husband died a few months ago.My sis and her 6 kids were really depressed and sad.Recently Tally was in an accident and taken to the hospital she gave me her kids to watch and I accepted.Now she's that she's suffering worse than ever =( what should i tell her poor kids?Her older ones know better on what's happening and are worried.So, what should i say to them?If their mom/my sister dies they'll be orphans.They all mean a lot to my family and we can't let them go off with other fmailies we don't know.Please help me! thank you in advance,={

Answer 1

Thats a really hard question and i am soo sorry for you and the kids to have to be going throught this. I suggest going to a grief counselor at the hospital and asking for proffesional advice since its such a sensitive subject. Just ask him/her how to deal with breaking the news and how to deal with the resulting emotions and behaviors after the fact. Im praying for your sister so she can pull through this but if God does call her home to watch over her kids from heaven then im sure that a grief counselor would help you and your family a lot. I had to talk to one after my grandfather died. I was 5 and had no idea about death and i was really close to my grandfather, he was like a father to my since my mom was divorced. After talking to the counselor i felt better about his death and learned to remember the good times an dform then on i had a healthy view of death and how to move on with my life. Ive lost other close family member since then and everytime i have a period of grieving then im able to laugh about the good times and know that i'll seem them again someday. Godd luck to you and i hope i helped a little. Once again i am soo sorry.

Answer 2

First, let me say how sorry I am for your family's trouble. This must be very hard for you and for your sister and her children.

My best suggestion is that you ask to talk to the hospital chaplain or social worker. Explain the situation and ask for help in talking with the kids. That person will probably have other ideas about how to cope with this crisis.

Also, talk with the rest of your family as soon as possible and see if you can work out a plan for taking care of the kids if your sister does die. If your sister is conscious, it may help her to know that her kids are going to be OK, no matter what.

Finally, don't give up hope that she'll recover. If you're religious, keep praying. If not, think positive thoughts -- the sick and dying can feel those vibes, and I've seen some remarkable recoveries.

Answer 3

If there is no chance that your sister will survive then prepare her children for that. The hospital should have counselors on staff that can help you with this. While your sister is still alive have her
draw up a will stating what should happen to her kids in the event that she dies. Finally, let her kids each say good-bye to their mother. It will help with
closure. After her death, get some counseling for
the kids. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Answer 4

If your sister is dying, then she does need to make provisions for her children. You probably need to contact legal aid or an attorney to talk with her about her final wishes. As far as the children, I would talk with your family and/or family minister to determine the best way to talk to them. The older ones sound as though they are old enough to hear the truth. The younger ones will be a little more difficult. They may understand the concept of mommy and daddy being together again and watching over them.

Answer 5

My heart goes out to you all!! I feel really sad to hear something like that.
Family counselors can do wonders. There are even support groups with other children who have lost parents. Check with a family counselor on that. Young children are very strong, they might suprise you as to how resilient they are.
Church is tomorrow and my prayers will be with you all!
I wish I could give you all a huge hug!!
Hang in there ok? XO

Answer 6

If things are really deteriorating then you have no choice but to tell them. Depending on age you have to tell them that mommies going to be leaving us to go spend some time with daddy and go more detailed depending on the age. As far as the welfare of the kids have your sister write a living will, that way things won't go into more of a tail spin if she does happen to pass away. Arrange who goes where and with whom, and explain it to the children that way they won't be confused. There's no easy way in going about that but god bless.

Answer 7

My advice, tell them the truth! Let them know that their mom may not recover...if she is able to have visitors. Let them see her to give her hugs and kisses, it'll help them deal with it better in the long run. My mother passed away when I was 14, I would have been devastated if I had not gotten to see her before her passing. Also, like someone has already pointed out...she needs to appoint a guardian. This needs to be done ASAP!!
When my father passed away 2 years ago, I had to break it to my then 5 year old son. It was not easy, but I told him the truth. I explained to him that paw paw was no longer living, and we would not be able to see him anymore. However, I made sure he knew that paw paw would always be with us in spirit. Then, I took him outside after dark & told him to pick out a star....he picked one out, and I told him that star was for his paw paw. So, if he ever felt lonely & needed to talk to paw paw he could always look up at that star & talk to him. For the longest time, we had to go outside before bed & say good night to paw paw.
Good Luck & my prayers are with you and your family

Answer 8

Sit down with the children and tell them the truth "because of your moms accident there is a chance she may not recover, if she does not you will always have family around..."

Answer 9

Tell them the truth. Then have your sister appoint a guardian for the kids and they own't go off with other families

Answer 10

That is a very scary situation. You could maybe tell the older ones, the ones that understand, what's going on, and maybe they could pass it on to thr younger ones. Let them meet their mommy and if anything should happen... adopt them yourself.