how do i tell some one...?

Question

im annorexic/bulemic. mostly bulemic because i've been hospitalized before for anorexica, and i am monitored. i want to tell my therapist, my mom, or even my friends that i've been throwing up. but i can't bring myself to do it. i think i'm afraid i'll be hospitalized again, and i don't want to go through that horror again. somebody please help me. im tired of this added stress, i don't know what to do anymore. my life is so out of control.

i've been hospitalized three times for anorexia. and i do get help. it just seems i always fall back into the same patterns. im way under 100 lbs. i know the number is very low and unhealthy, its just when i see myself i grow to hate me more. and i don't know what to do.i can't accept anything positive about myself. its scar y to think of my life with out my ED. i don't know where i'd be with out it. i don't want people to make a big deal about it , so im hiding it, but people are getting suspicious. and i don't know what to do.

Answer 1

Simple...fight back your weakness and horror and step up to the plate. Explain the eating disorder is back. Ask for help. Start w/ your parents.

Answer 2

Sweetie, surely you know that you are risking your life with this disorder. Your mother loves you very much and wants to help you. It is very difficult to make the decision to hospitalize someone, but sometimes it must be done. Please tell your therapist, who will discuss with you and your mom together. Perhaps you can request that you want some control over the hospitalization, like choosing the best day to go, how often you can make phone calls, or something special that you want to bring with you to the hospital. Take care of yourself and get well!

Answer 3

I used to have the same disorders. For two years. I was hospitalized countless times. You have to stop this sweetheart. I know it is hard, but you can do it. I cried every time I had to take a bite of something, but I did it and I've been healthy for a year and a half now. When you overcome this, which you will, you will feel very proud of yourself.

You do need to tell someone though. You need some help with this. You can't get rid of it on your own. You have to want to get better though. It's hard to tell someone, but once you get it out you can start working on it. You can e-mail me as much as you would like if you need to talk. Hang in there sweety.

Answer 4

Sweetie PLEASE tell someone! I know being hospitalized is no walk in the park... but it may be the only way to regain control of your life! You already know your life is out of control. Most people can not get back into control without help through parents and therapists.

Please talk to them... No matter how hard it is. In the end you will be glad you did.

If you can't say the words. Write them down in a letter. Then read the letter to them or just hand it to them. Tell them how scared you are of being hospitalized again. Be but open to that possibility. Ask for their help. You will get it...

Answer 5

Think what a weight will be lifted from your shoulders by telling someone...Your life IS out of control and you need to take the first (admittedly HARD) steps to being a happy healthy human being again. EVen if you are hospitalized it sounds like you are living in horror and angst right now anyway...and I'm sure you don't need anyone on here to tell you what this is doing to your body...you have heard it all before if you have been through treatment. Please seek help.

Answer 6

Try writing it down in a note and give it to them, or email. Do it over the phone or through IM. I know this sounds a little silly but do it through a door, you stand on one side and leave it cracked and then have whomever you choose to tell stand on the other... you won't have to see their face and that sometimes hleps. You could tell them that you don't want to be in the hospital but want to get better, but if it is really serious then you will probably HAVE to so you don't DIE, and don't forget that there are many hospitals out there, don't let your experience at one be how you think of them all.
Breathe deep and keep reminding yourself that you want to be better and healthier! You want to get better and that is wonderful! Good for you! Good luck!

Answer 7

well its always good to get help, even if it means being hospitalized. why are you throwing up? is it bcuz of the feeling of being in control of your weight? do you feel uncomfortable with your weight? im sure you know, but there are tons of healthy ways to lose weight that dont involve acids from your stomach burning up your throat. there are lots of places to find good diets & exercises to help you keep a good figure. give yourself a few days to see if you can just give up bullemia on your own. but after a week (maybe even 5 days) tell someone you trust.

& if you end up getting hospitalized for a little while bcuz of it, its only a temporary thing. once you get better you can live your life! its a much better choice than to spend your life in this state.

email me if you need to talk!

-sydney

Answer 8

You need to tell someone. And you really need to get the help. Being Anorexic/Bulimic is very serious and life threatening. If being hospitalized is what it takes then you need to go through it to get the help you need FOR YOU and not for anyone else. Tell you mom. All she wants to do is help you and love you and keep you in her life for as long as she can and if that means being hospitalized then so be it. That is the best place for you right now. Please get the help you need and deserve. You have a long life ahead of you and you need to be in a position to enjoy it. Take care.

Answer 9

well, if you don't want to be hospitalized, i suggest telling ur mother first and then telling ur therapist. First start out by saying something like, mum (dr.) i need to tell you something, and it's really important to me because i know that it is a problem and i want you to help me with it, i dont want to go to the hospital/institution again, they didnt help and i think that just my therapist and you can do more help. i have started eating again, however i make myself throw it up. (insert reason why aka stress, u feel ur fat or just i dont know y) but the hospital didnt help, and i think that i can come to you for help and know that you want to help me in this as well.
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i hope that helps, and i know it'll be hard ive gone thru it myself.

Answer 10

You are the only one who can bring your life under control. No one else can do it for you. However, there are many good therapists out there to help you. Find one in your area and make an appointment. Resolve to "fix this" in your life. You are worth more than what you are doing to yourself, and you deserve to take back your own power.