In July started dating, I think, the love of my life. He saw a big change in my behavior, moods, & sex drive about a month into our relationship. I basically went from an spontaneous, fun girl in love, to a crying stress case, lashing out at him and trying to break up with him over every tiny thing. I can tell my judgement is off. I will completely misunderstand something he says and go off like a light switch.
I was finally diagnosed with clinical depression after 9 months (began taking celexa & xanax) and had to take a leave of absence from school and my job, leaving my boyfriend for almost a month. We've tried to stay in touch over the phone and he came to visit, but he's so hurt and I feel so guilty about how the depression has caused me to act towards him. We finally decided not stay in touch until I am back in town and feeling better because there's so much unresolved. Can it salvaged in this case? Is there anything I can do to regain his trust in my love? We were inseperable.
2007-03-17 13:47:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
We knew each other for 4 years prior to dating.
2007-03-17 13:53:40 · update #1
I also began therapy this month during my leave from work/school.
2007-03-17 13:55:59 · update #2
You need to understand that many people can't cope with someone who has a mental illness because they dont understand it. Its not their fault; and in all honesty would you want him to go through what you have been through so he would understand? It is very scary for the bystander even if the know you have this problem they feel useless because they cant "help" you, dont know how to "support" you and aren't sure of what is going to happen next.
Having said all that, if you take things slowly you can prepare him if he is willing, just start out with coffee. I would like to think that he is the type of guy who cared enough to have that coffee with you, if he is clear that he doesnt want to resume the relationship then you will have to accept that at face value and with as much dignity as you can, simply get up and leave no dramas. If he is prepared to continue again take it slowly, let him get used to having you in his life, date etc do not automatically think you can pick up where you left off. You need to develop solid ground before you move forward. Good luck!
2007-03-17 14:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Just Thinking 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ive been through this and am very grateful i have such a caring and understanding boyfriend.He used to cop a lot of my anger frustration and extremely hurtful things that i would say to him.Yup he would get pissed off ,but he always just walked away till i had calmed down,i would apologize,he would tell me that he was always there for me etc.Two and a half years later,i know longer have the depression that i had and our relationship is stronger then ever.I guess what I'm trying to say that even though it must be incredibly hard for him to put up with it at the moment if he truly loved you he would be supportive and understanding.
2016-03-29 03:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Diana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-16 03:30:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a doctor, but from what you describe, it sounds like you are more bi-polar than anything. There are meds for that, as well. Be careful of the Xanax, it's highly addictive, and hopefully your doc told you that. As for the relationship... that depends entirely on just how deeply your boyfriend cares for you. If he's "in it for the long haul", he'll wait for your meds to work and give you another chance. If he doesn't wait, then you'll have your answer and you're better off without him.
2007-03-17 13:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clinical depression or just depression for that matter can interfere with many aspects of ones life. When you see him again,you need to have him understand what clinical depression is, and that you may have to deal with it for some time. In doing that he (hopefully) will understand that at times you may just not be yourself, and that it's not your intentions to lash out but sometimes you just can't help it. Doesn't mean you love him any less,just at times it may be alittle different.
2007-03-17 13:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by happyfingers1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're on medication but are you getting counseling? You know medications are not going to make the depression go away....right? Only counseling can help you to do that. If you aren't getting counseling, then I'm sure your depression is not getting better...and that is surely why he's no longer in this relationship.
2007-03-17 13:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only knew each other a short time. If he feels he can cope with your depression go ahead in the relationship, if he sounds like he's backing off, let him go
2007-03-17 13:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just need some time for the medicine to kick in. Yes you can repair the realationship because he will understand what you went through.
I have to take lexapro myself. Its an antidepressant.
2007-03-17 13:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by brandontremain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not quite sure it's the depression thats making you act that way toward him...you may have unresolved issues...i've learned through my own experience that until you get yourself straightened out you cant be healthy for anyone else....
2007-03-17 14:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by psycho_mistress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-17 14:32:30 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋