okay so we've been goin out for about for 11 months now and i love him soo much and i know he loves me but i gave up all my friends except like 1 (which is my bestfriend)for him and he still has most his friends to turn to and it seems like when he hangs out w/ them he doesn't care about me anymore. i mean like he'll always tell me he's gonna call or text and he doesn't..i feel bad cause whenever he says hes gonna hang out w/ them i just automatically get sooo mad. and i dont want to be a ***** and tell him not to hang out w/ them.. not to mention im kinda scared of what he'll do when he's w/ them i know he wont cheat but im afraid he'll do something stupid. and its not like i can go hang out w/ ne of my friends so i dont have to think so much about it cause i gave them all up...
2007-03-17 13:38:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cant just dump him cause we are seriously IN LOVE. there is no way id be able to do that. i know he loves me sooooooo much. but im scared because i keep on getting sooo mad when he hangs out w/ his friends i mean he has the right to but every time he does i get mad at him
2007-03-17 13:55:10 · update #1
use this as your great opportunity to get connected with your old friends again. Somehow, your bf has ended up with a much better deal. But now that you know how he is operating, you need to go and do something similar. At the moment you are getting 'sooo mad' because you have made sacrifices for him that he is not prepared to do for you. Comparatively speaking, this is a fairly new relationship and it may not be clear what direction it will eventually take. This is even more reason to retain and reconnect with as many of your old pals as possible. What if it doesn't work out for the long term? You would be left high and dry like a sucker. Don't get me wrong...you two might have a lot of good times ahead of you...but you can't know for sure and life is full of surprises. What your bf is doing by having lots of friends is not a bad thing, but you need to let yourself have many friends also. He may even appreciate you more if you are not always permanently and automatically available for him all the time.
2007-03-17 13:52:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him! I did the same thing. The relationship lasted about 15 years. When it was over, I had no one and discovered the only reason my "bf" stayed around was to screw him. It was a lonely, painful stage in my life and I had no one because I had given up everyone because I loved him so much.
Lesson learned: If he loves you, the only thing you will have to give up is your love to him. Dump him now! Keep all of your friends.
PLEASE! You'll need your friends someday. It is true what they say: Lovers come and go but friends are forever!
2007-03-17 13:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by DEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ms. Blond:
You should not have to give up anybody or anything to prove your love for your boyfriend.
If you get into the habit of giving so much of yourself away, you won't have anything left for yourself; THINK ABOUT IT!
So...
1) Love yourself ...FIRST!
2) Set some boundaries!
3) Develop some self-respect!
4) Make yourself unavailable for him!
5) Drop your jerk-boyfriend like a hot rock!
6) GO BACK to #1 and find someone else!
Sincerely,
Ms. MIDDLEFINGER
PS: AND...by everything holy, DO NOT (I repeat) DO NOT get pregnant by this jerk! He will not care and a baby will not change his mind towards you!
2007-03-17 13:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any relationship is going to contain a certain amount of compromise. How much have you given up for the relationship and is it worth it? Doesn't sound like he's as invested as you.
I'd also say, boyfriends come and go, your friends get you through these times and their important to keep around.
2007-03-17 13:45:07 · answer #4 · answered by belle_bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your life back TODAY!! not tomorrow TODAY!!!!
And you could get it all back in like 20 phone calls - it will take you about 1 hour. And see if that restores what is missing for you.
It might noit but it will be a start. Call them now...start by apologising for being a jerk and getting rid of them for no good reason and ask for thier friendship again.
2007-03-18 03:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by lowroad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you do something like that? It's not as if it's something girlfriends have to do. Everyone needs a social circle, and you're stuck with a social dot. Get your friends back.
2007-03-17 13:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you give your friends up.
boyfriends come and go but friends are the ones
that are going to be with you forever.
you should break up with that dumb as* and get your friends back
2007-03-17 13:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept the fact you have been a fool.
2007-03-17 13:42:51 · answer #8 · answered by stevemxusa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋