Should I tell a secret?

Question

I have a secret that is really painful and lately it has been harder and harder to deal with it. Should I just come out with my secret and potentially create more stress for those around me. This secret could also ruin friendships.What should i do?

Answer 1

let it out now it will only be worse if you leave it until later

Answer 2

If the secret you are keeping can cause someone serious pain or grief because you are keeping it, then it is better to tell. If the secret will save a life by your telling, then you need to tell as soon as possible. You know in your heart what the right thing to do is. Do a little searching. Ask yourself, if you keep the secret to yourself, could things become a whole lot worse, or if you let the secret out...will that cause everyone more pain? If the secret has to do with yourself...such as you are gay (just an example) then you need to tell and let the chips fall where they may. Those that really love you will still love you no matter what.

Answer 3

Secrets are always tough... if you want to "tell it" just to make yourself feel better, then it's probably not a good idea... you should never hurt your friends & loved ones around you just to make life easier on yourself.

However, if it's a secret that will hurt more people b/c they DON'T know it than it will save, then perhaps you should spill it. Sometimes secrets hurt when they come to light, but it's always better to tell if it will do more GOOD than it will do harm (in the long run, that is...).

Basically, if you can live without telling it & no one will get hurt, then you might want to just keep on living with it. But, if you know for a fact that it's something that others absolutely need to know about b/c NOT knowing will cause them great hurt or danger, then get the people who need to know in one place & let it out. Sometimes it's much better to deal with certain things with the help of others we trust.

Gosh, I hope that answer made some kind of sense to you. Good luck with it, either way... whatever you decide to do.

Answer 4

I guess it depends on the secret. If some one told you a secret they told you in confidence, they didnt tell you so you would tell. If its something you did or said, I would come clean, remember telling may hurt people, but secrets hurt people as well

Answer 5

dont tell the secret! Eventually it will come out without your help and at least you wont be the one who spilled the beans!

Answer 6

I agree with Russell, secrets have a way of coming out on their own. Better it comes from you.

Answer 7

tess the secret it will come out sooner or later and it is better comming from you

Answer 8

Abuse grows in silence.

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