ok so herez the deal, my bestfriend and i have been friends for about 6yrs now, we both really like each other a lot and over the past 6 yrs we have bcum real close and fond of each other. Even though our schdules are really tight we try to hang out or text each other.Since we've been really close we've kissed (french) a lot. I don't want to jump into having sex with him. cuz i think he's the one so i want 2 wait and we really like each otha. He told me he loved me a lot and i told him i did 2 . But its been hard to talk about making us "official" cuz if we're jus friends we shoudn't be french kissing right? cuz that leads to making out and that's something friends with benefits do right. I don't want that . He said he'd tell me were i stand on a later date. I've already told him about how i feel. Its been almost a couple of months and he still hasn't said a thing. Is this guy into me or I should jus move on. And let go of my feelings and let us jus be bestfriends?
please help
2007-03-17 13:36:15 · 9 answers · asked by Bluey07 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh honey...this is heartbreaking because i went through something similar...i also had a best friend that i kissed who made me wait to see if he wanted us to be girlfriend and boyfriend. he told me we were best friends and that he'd love to proclaim me his girlfriend but that there was no hurry. i naively waited for him to give me a sign. he did. he stopped talking to me :( in your case you've known him six years!thats a long time to be friends and u probably know each other really well. i say stop kissing him immediately. tell him you're noy into friends with benefits. if that were the case we could all kiss whoever we call "friends."and we dont, so why should this be any different? until he can really commit to you, and can prove that hes really into you, dont kiss him again. he sees you as a convenient form of intimacy, cos he knows you care about him. ask him a few more times about where you stand, and if nothing happens, stop asking him and try to distance yourself. if he asks whats wrong, tell him how you feel and how hes hurting you by not being honest with you. all the luck love, i hope this all works out. please keep me posted on how it turns out!!!
2007-03-17 13:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by jgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he is not into you in the same way you are to him. Ask him if he wants your relationship to move forward or not, if he doesn't then you need to move on, you can stay friends with him but cut out the kissing, but a light kiss on the cheek is the right and proper way for friends. If you do move on and get someone who really cares for you with better long term prospects, then you will need to cut down on your communication, and meeting of the present one.
Good luck whatever YOU decide.
2007-03-17 13:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Hammer&Drill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you have to decide if you make a go of being together and it all went wrong would you be prepared to loose a friendship because sex and friendships do not always last. don't get me wrong my partner and i were friends first and 7 years later we are getting married. but i know a lot of friends who are no longer friends because they over Sept the line from friendship to lovers. Is it really worth the risk? Good Luck tho hope it all works out for you both the way it did for me.
2007-03-17 13:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by LISA uk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my bf right now.. we've been friends for 6 years too.. why don't you just talk to him and ask what's really going on? It may be hard, but everything will turn out ok in the end.. just keep that in mind. I was so scared to talk to Josh bout being bf/ n g/f, but it all worked out.. and we've been official for 4 months... 5 months on the 21st! Good luck!
2007-03-17 13:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should go in person and ask him if your relationship is still on and if it's not I think you should move on. It may be hard at first but, once you get it over with and see what's really going on you'll know what to do and it will be ok.
2007-03-17 13:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to kiss fair play to you and if it leads to more then it is meant to be.
Have fun!
2007-03-17 13:41:22 · answer #6 · answered by Stu pid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i kissed my girl mates before the new trend is your going out but you aint if you get me..Your intimate aswell but as they say it " just good friends"..
2007-03-17 17:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by SUNIL S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just let things take there coerce, if any think happens good , if it doesn't you've still got a friend.
2007-03-17 13:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by NIGEL R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know the right thing to do.
2007-03-17 13:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by TOM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋