The couple in question have shared custody of their children (7 and 9) The mother does not want to pick up their children from their father's place and does not want their father to pick up their children from her place when there is no school or day care. She only wants to exchange their children from a MacDonald parking. I want to emphasize that there is no reason whatsoever on her part to want to exchange children in a MacDonald parking. The father wants their children to be exchanged at their respective home because he believes that they are not commodities and is about respect and dignity. The children do not want to be exchanged at MacDonald parking either, especially the boy saying that he is not a hamburger. The father is suggesting, if she does not want his place or her place, at least to exchange them at a family home when they are with her but when they are with him, he wants them to be pick up from his place. What do you think?
2007-03-17 13:32:58 · 23 answers · asked by Sunshine G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
And you would be whom in this story? The woman he left her for?
I have my own story. My husband left me and our 6 month old son for my best friend. I hated them both for it. There was no love lost between me and her. It would have been much better had I had the smarts to demand a neutral pickup and dropoff place. We got into some horrendous fights having to take my son over there, and visa versa. Nasty business. My son would have been better off not seeing such bad scenes.
Trust me. The mother of these two children is doing what is best for her children and her own sanity. And shame on you whoever you are for not respecting her wishes.
2007-03-17 13:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the situation was, why the parents are separated. If there was domestic violence involved, I can understand the mother not wanting them to be at each others' respective houses. But if its just because they don't like each other, I think they should consider working out a more personal arrangement. I think the most important thing to consider is that the children are able to see and spend time both parents. I also think that the children shouldn't even know that the parents are having this dispute. It should have been worked out as to where even if the parents disagreed, the children didn't even know there was friction.
2007-03-17 20:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by mzstorm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These parents need to grow up and stop putting their children in the middle of their petting arguments. The mother must have some kind of reason why she does not want their father at her home. The father sounds like he is making way too much of an issue about the public place for exchange.
She must still be hurting a lot.
They both need to grow up for the sake of the kids.
2007-03-17 20:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by Bingo's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have two children 8 and 9. And i share costody with the father also. And i do beleive that they should be picked up or dropped off at the respective home of a relative or at the mothers or fathers home. I do beleive that the mother and the father should have enough respect for their children to want to get along enough to drop the children off.
2007-03-17 20:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that thats a very good suggestion, but why doesn't the mother want them to be picked up from the parents homes? It doesn't make any sense. I don't think that being picked at a relatives house is in the best interest of the children, but if that's the only choice, take it. I also think that the children's opinion should be put into consideration. Good luck.
2007-03-17 20:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by Allahu_Akbar 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
when i was 7 or 9 i wanted to go to McDonald's every chance i got (which is why I'm so skinny now, I'm sure). Parents set the rules, not the kids. Sounds like a parent fight. Until the kids stop loving one or the other or both of ya, trade off wherever works for both parents. Don't mean to sound cold, but i was a pawn in my parents' divorce, and this reminds me of all the b*llsh*t fights i had to endure while crying myself to sleep... and plz somebody make sure that the boy doesn't REALLY think of himself as a piece of meat. Good Luck
2007-03-17 20:48:56 · answer #6 · answered by everybody loves 3000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me tell you a little something my daughter exchanges her children at a police station and the grandparents pick the kids up because her soon to be ex husband is violent towards her.The mom has a reason and there are probably things you know nothing about so take a step back and don't go interfering its none of your business.
2007-03-17 20:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I say they both go to court and tell the Judge their respective sides and let him decide.
Personally, if that's the only "issue" between them both as parents, then hey, deal with it.
I wouldn't make a big deal out of it ESPECIALLY in front of the kids--that's the only reason why the boy is upset about being a hamburger---nobody needed to tell them why mom and dad pick up and drop off at McDonalds...someone REALLY shouldve kept their piehole shut on that one.
2007-03-17 20:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It seems that the woman is being smart to prevent any arguments or confrontations between her and the ex and she is choosing a neutral ground to do the exchange. Regardless if there is no reason, what is the big deal. She can do what ever she wants as long as it is safe.
2007-03-17 20:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the father. Children should not have to feel awkward in this situation. The transition should go as smoothly as possible.
2007-03-17 20:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by vernise2679 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋