I get emails from a dating expert who says that looks, age, money, etc, don't matter. What does matter, atleast according to him, is the ability to create attraction. As far as you're concerned, does there has to be some sort of chemistry from the get go before you'll even consider dating a person? Tell me what you think.
2007-03-17 13:25:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wasn't physically attracted to my husband at all. We had an instant emotional connection though. I am not trying to be rude but there were things about my husband that physically were weird and different to me (*I thought.) Because he is a different race i just wasn't used to being around. Now I think he is the HOTTEST dude on earth and I am so attracted to him that I just can't keep my hands off him. So for me any connection of any kind can create a lasting, loving relationship. I don't think I would ever be with a white guy again. (if I were to be with another man, which I would not because I am happily married)
2007-03-17 13:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as people would like to believe that looks do not matter it is untrue. Looks will always matter, you must find something attractive appearance wise before you will even decide to start a conversation with someone, it's just our nature as humans and it's nothing to be ashamed of.
Eyes, smile, posture, voice... many many different things can attract you before you even speak with someone face to face and if you are not drawn to them in some way then you will not try to get to know them. However, if you meet someone on the internet for example and you do not get to see a picture of the person until after you start building a relationship with them. And if you develop feelings for this person when you do finally see them it will not matter so much what they look like you are already emotionally attracted to them. Make sense?
2007-03-24 21:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by Rissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone went by physical appearances alone, love would be a rare thing. Many times that initial attraction is absent. It comes out when you get to know the person.
Honestly, I immediately assess whether the guy is attractive or not. It's only human nature. But a wiser person looks beyond face value and lets the relationship develop.
2007-03-17 20:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like for there to be some level of physical attraction. If I like someones personality, I will go out with them and see where it goes.
2007-03-17 20:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetie246 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not go out with them...maybe their nice and you'll see them in a different way. But if its ever to get serious you need to be attracted, you dont want problems to come between you for that reason.
2007-03-25 03:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i first saw my current boyfriend i wasn't attracted to him at all. But our chemistry was and is still amazing. As time when on i fell in love with him, he's the love of my life!
so yes i would date someone i wasn't initially attracted to.
2007-03-17 20:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♪♫britt♪♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I try to be open minded at first and usually find something that attracts me to them, then I find I usually become physically attracted to them. There are things other than looks that are attractive, like someone who is attentive, treats you well, smells great, nice to animals and small children, etc.
2007-03-25 05:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Runnin for my life '73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person could date you and see if it goes anywere, but then why would you want someone to date you if they had no attraction to you really? If youre a guy or girl in that situation, your next question on here might be whining about being taken advantage of or being 'led' on? peace
2007-03-17 20:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
--you asked would we go out with someone we weren't initially attracted to in a physical sense-and not 'would we love them,'-- so no, i wouldn't go out with someone who I am not initially attracted to, that would be a very strange thing to do, in my opinion there has to be some attraction.
2007-03-17 21:31:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as a girl looks dont matter to me. what does matter is how you treat her. if you like her then dont make a fool of your self just so she will notice you. just walk up to her and be yourself. dont listen to what other people say, its not there opinion of who you want to date! yes i think you should at least give her a chance.
2007-03-25 16:00:55 · answer #10 · answered by Nemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋