I'm 19. I've never had a boyfriend or been asked out. What am I doing wrong?

Question

I'm 19 and I think I'll be single til I die. I'm at my second year at University. I'm not 'a stunner' but I'm not ugly, and I'm a good weight and build.

I'm quite shy, but I can go out and it's as if guys physically shut me out, like they turn their backs to me while talking to my friends.

I've tried talking to guys but get nowhere, unless they're only after one thing and try and force me.

What am I doing wrong? Am I abnormal? Am I giving off the wrong signals?

I'm 19 and I think I'll be single til I die. I'm at my second year at University. I'm not 'a stunner' but I'm not ugly, and I'm a good weight and build.

I'm quite shy, but I can go out and it's as if guys physically shut me out, like they turn their backs to me while talking to my friends.

I've tried talking to guys but get nowhere, unless they're only after one thing and try and force me.

What am I doing wrong? Am I abnormal? Am I giving off the wrong signals?

eta:

Here's my picture

http://myspace-295.vo.llnwd.net/01132/59/28/1132018295_l.jpg

and most of my friends are either in very serious long term relationships or are like me and have never had a boyfriend. (My group are abnormal...most of my friends don't seem to want boyfriends)

eta:

Here's my picture

http://myspace-295.vo.llnwd.net/01132/59...

and most of my friends are either in very serious long term relationships or are like me and have never had a boyfriend. (My group are abnormal...most of my friends don't seem to want boyfriends)

eta: Thanks for all the answers! They've helped a lot :)

Answer 1

nope theres nothing wrong with you theres a million guys and gals in your situation just try to be more confident and flirty guys will soon notice you

just checked back and seen ur pic etc and there is nothing wrong with you your not ugly i dont believe you havent had a boyfriend tho just try to be more confident about yourself and you'll get a bf in no time.

Answer 2

First off I am sorry you have never had a boyfriend yet you are missing alot. You are not a stunner but not ugly...lets say average. Allot of men think average is beautiful so that should not be a problem. I think it is the pool you are fishing in. Most college boys are into partying and cruising for the stunner's, it's shallow but true. Maybe it is the way you dress , you could try another look . Or you could look somewhere else other than around campus if that is what you have been doing. Maybe take up something new that would put you in a new pool. How about cycling ? Its good for you and I happen to now there alot more men compared to women you shouldn't have any touble finding someone in a group of people who are into more than partying. How about co-ed softball? Fencing ? I do that , not to meet girls though, it's just a blast.
Any way I'm sure you are not abnormal. You could be giving wrong signals but I could not answer that. Do you have any girlfriends you could talk to about this? They would know if it was how you were dressing or acting I would guess.
Also if you feel Beautiful on the inside you will Radiate beautiful on the outside and I am sure you will find someone who thinks you are absolutley beautiful. My last girlfriend to be honest was not a very pretty girl, but to me she was and still is Very Beautiful in my eyes.

Good Luck, I'm sure you will be fine.

Answer 3

Hey - dont fear - what you have to do is perhaps be confident in yourself. Guys know when a girl likes them and they like to chase us - so No 1 - neva chase a guy. You could do with a makeover - I think if you wear sexy clothes, wear little makeup and be a "fun" person you will attract guys... you dont need to be a tramp just because you dress sexy... its an attitude thing. If you start to really look at yourself - is your hair in a fashionable style? Do you wear glasses - could you wear contacts? Start to love yourself, this is what guys like - Im sorry that it IS a superficial world and they will only ask girls out who look like they either "enjoy sex" or "have fun" - doesnt mean you have to go through with it - just smile alot and try to be "chatty" start talking about the weather - ask if they are busy with their uni work - which subjects they enjoy and why - stuff like that - if you have little confidence, start talking to the "less attractive" guys and build up your conversational skills and take it from there - dont wori sis - I was very shy at your age and thought Id be single for eva too - Im now 35 and have men chasing me - all men want sex but its up to you whether or not it suits you, you will know this in years to come - you are lucky you are a female... God Bless and take your time - never be hard on yourself. So important to "love yourself" before anyone can love you. X

Answer 4

Humm, really, I do not think you are doing anything wrong. I was in the same situation, just like you. I started reading some flirting books (a lot of them). I tried everything on them... I had succed, but not enought. I was going crazy really crazy till I gave up, and all the sudden I got it. Now I have a girlfriend I found her on www.meetic.com Just for curiosity. Can you post a pic?
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Well, thanks for sharing the picture with us. Without any doubt, you are very hot looking...... Its a pity I have a girlfriend!!! But I think is very interesting what you say about your friends not wanting a boyfriend. I was in the same situation, when I was talking about girls my friends thought I was speaking abour martians or ET, nobody would understand why there was any interest to get a girl, so what I did is get away from this people and make new friends that they were more interested in this activity, I did and really they helped me a lot.

Really, I think your problem is not that you are not hot (and you are very hot...) they are your friends. imagine that you are a guy, he sees a girl like you, he thinks, she is so hot, but then he thinks o no, but she hangs out only with this unfriendly girls, then she must to be unfriendly also, then better I get away from her, because I do not want to get in trouble. Sorry, but this is how we guys think!!!!

Hope it helps!

Answer 5

Don't try too hard. Your guy will come soon. All of us hit dry spells, only a few admit it. You sound like a perfectly normal young lady and some very lucky guy will see that some day and he'll scoop you right up. Believe it!

Answer 6

well i never seen you before, but maybe you might be talkin to the wrong boys... you probably talk to the pretty boys and you know they think that they can get anybody so all they want is "that", maybe you should talk to someone who you wouldn t really talk to. you knows you might find that special someone.
Good Luck!