Also, should you phone them before taking it out, or just show up?
2007-03-17 13:06:58 · 13 answers · asked by Kitty_Rose7673 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Thanks everyone! I did cry yesterday on my own time lol, it's 2 of my best guy friends, ages 16 and 14, and I just feel so terrible. My mom is making tallerina (it's a casserole with noodles, hamburger, olives, onions, tomato sauce, and melted cheese on top), banana bread, and we're going to get a fruit/veggie tray too. Thanks everyone!!
2007-03-17 13:40:10 · update #1
It is very nice but I would let them know beforehand; however nice the gesture, if someone shows up with food when you've already cooked your own, it's only an extra hassle to have too much food, leftovers, etc!
Very sorry about your friends :-(
2007-03-17 23:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. The families might be too sad to think about cooking somthing. If you call, the words might be sobs. It's better to bring something like a casserole and say some nice words about the dead person.
2007-03-17 20:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Kitten 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes it is and very thoughtful. Also, paper places, cups,plastic silverware and coffee. are nice. Make sure what you take can be stored easily if not eaten that day. The person will remember your kindness for a long time. I think a phone call to see if someone has prepared them dinner that night would be nice but not necessary. Also, give of yourself. Meaning be there for them if they need you.
2007-03-17 20:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jodi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's how you pay respects is with food so they don't have to fix some because there in mourning.and need to mourn not make food .yes you call and say that your dropping by for a minute with some food for them
then of course you say some nice words about the deceased & how sorry you are .and I always say i Will pray for them and don't stay to long.
and Thank You for caring dear Lady
2007-03-17 20:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Taking a dish of food to a grieving family is a kind gesture. What is important is our intentions and desires, purely from our own unique thoughts. Thoughts become Things.
2007-03-17 20:40:06 · answer #5 · answered by C. Kretz 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a kind, thoughtful gesture that the family is sure to appreciate.
If the dish is to be re-heated, make sure you write down the minor directions for them. Also, make sure that you either use a disposable dish or clearly mark your name on the container.
A quick phone call is a good idea, just to let them know you are dropping something off. Let them know that you are not planning on staying long (unless you want to and they want you to).
2007-03-17 20:24:04 · answer #6 · answered by aivilo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, not only is it proper but it is very helpful. Often the days immediately following a death are just a flurry of activity. When my father in law died, if my sister hadn't given us a big tub of turkey soup we wouldn't have had time to eat at all. It was a life saver.
2007-03-17 20:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by tas211 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very proper and is called being neighborly.
It is a good idea to just place a quick call and say that you are coming over with dinner . Just so they will know you are on your way.
What a beautiful idea.
2007-03-17 20:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Cammie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call them before going and don't bring food. They are too depressed to eat.
2007-03-18 02:17:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you bet it is, it is one of the kindest thing you can do, it says a LOT more than words or card can ever say! your kind act will live forever, in those people !! just pop in no need for prearrangement just do it!!
2007-03-18 05:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋