i'v been havein problm with my dad 4 a while 4 about 4 moouths it started on christmas day he was i guatemala with his gurl firend he didn't bother 2 tell us that he left and on christmas he didnt call like he all way dose i got so mad at him because before this he came 2 my house and the whole time he was there all he did was talk 2 gurl friends he dosent give a crap about me or my brouther s and sister so i didnt talk 2 him for about 1 mounth .... when i ended up taking 2 him he said that he didnt care about how i felt about his gurl friend and1 day going 2 marry her that right theresaid 2 me that he didnt care about him i hung up on him and i stated crying ...i never cry about any thing unless some one dyes he also said that he will move over there with her but he couldnt cause we need him and i think that a bunch of crap........i really dont know what 2 do i think i dont need himm at alllllll so if u can help me that would be graet !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-17 12:43:39 · 13 answers · asked by Puerto Rican Baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds like you and your dad are on the same level of maturity communications-wise. Until your dad grows up a little, you will need to give him benefit of the doubt on some of this.
You are his child, and such, he should be paying some attention to you and your siblings while he is visiting you.
If you could sit down with him the next time he visits and in a calm manner explain to him that you need him to be a father to you and that you understand that you cannot dictate to him about whom he marries. You just want to be loved by him that's all.
See what he has to say to that.
2007-03-17 13:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry sweetie. Divorced/single parents sometimes act worse than teenagers. Both sexes are capable of being equally immature. After a divorce, feelings are hurt, a family has been lost to the noncustodial parent. Your dad probably thinks every thinks he's a loser. That he's a jerk, divorce his fault, etc... Maybe his life used to look better in his eyes. He's paying child-support, had to find a new place to live. If you chose to live with your mom, he may be hurt that you love her more. When feelings have been hurt, adults don't always act like adults. sorry.
Maybe he's just trying to prove that he is still lovable, desirable, manly etc. Whatever the reason.
Try and remember he has feelings too. That bruised egos take a while to heal. Even if he's always been a jerk, he is your dad.
If you didn't love him, and need to feel loved by him you wouldn't be crying so much. Just try to treat her with respect. Kinda like a teenager, if you like her, he might not think she's that great anymore. If he's not standing there with his arms crossed, telling you how great she is, he might quit believing she's that great after all. Plus, for the pain this has caused you, imagine if you liked her sooo much, and pointed out everything you like about her, and they call it quits, you can keep asking, "WHY???".
Obviously, wives and girlfriends will come and go, but he's the only dad you've got.
2007-03-17 13:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Fallon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It really isn;t any of your concern who he marries, but it doesn't mean that he doesn;t love you too. HE has to live with her, it's HIS choice. The same as when you find a wife and marry, it's not your DAD's choice, but YOURS.
You really need to just talk to him, more that it sounds like you feel neglected than that you don;t like his girlfriend. THAT is your concern and you have to work it out together.
2007-03-17 12:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember he has his agency...pray for him, just love him no matter what.
He needs you now more than ever, try your hardest not to judge him. Just help him to understand you love him and care about him. He'll come to his senses.
If he asks for your opinion tell him respectfully and remind him that you know that ultimately it's his choice. Kindly ask him questions about his girlfriend to help him and you understand how he really feels about her.
It's going to be tough...it sounds to me like he knows in his heart what he's doing isn't right...remember he's going to be jumping to his own defense--have patience, pray, and love him no matter what.
2007-03-17 12:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do need your dad...you r family....yes, it hurts and it seems to be worse each time something comes up, but you both love each other so much and don't stop and show it, you r too busy letting each other know how hurt you are .....You both need to take some deep breaths and talk it out...Sure he loves the girlfriend, and he will fight for her the more you fight against her...If you just get along with it and accept her, you will be able to get back to your relationship...Tell him you don't want him to leave you...Tell hime how much you love him...Don't be afraid...Otherwise you won't be able to change it once its too late...
2007-03-17 12:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 19:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi There, You can ask God to help you out with this. HE will help you out. He is there for you and your brother's and sister. HE cares about you so much. Good luck on it and be brave. God loves you and your brother's and sister so much. God bless you all.
2007-03-17 13:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor you. You don't need a father because you can ask other people for help. Good luck.
2007-03-17 12:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't mind him it's not worth your tears, one day you will be able to make your own choices in life , and you will definetely not be like him, actualy his a good example for you of whom not to be like....don't stress it life is to short.one day you will find a person who's commited , so let go! Peace be with You.
2007-03-17 12:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean, ignore him like he does you, then he'll realize how much he needs you.
2007-03-17 13:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Chrishonda Alston 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋