Ok, I am presently trying to get out of a 7 year relationship with my boyfriend. For the past several years, I have had suspicions that he has been cheating on me - but I never had enough evidence to prove it. Well, after so many years, and so many lies - I have finally decided to stop searching for the last piece of evidence and just end it.
Like my cheating boyfriend, his father is also a big cheat. In fact I don't think his father even knows what a monogamous relationship feels like. He is often juggling several women at one time, and lies constantly. My question is - if a father is a womanizer, is his son more likely to cheat? Is it inevitable that a son will follow in his father's footsteps? I knew how my bf was raised, but I thought that he would turn out differently. Any comments?
2007-03-17
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footprintsinmymind
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i would think so...dump him and drop 100 lbs of rubble on his memory and move on. Boys often learn and imitate dads..that is why so much is done these days to tell guys to be good dads.
Pls move on and find someone who would be committed to you.
Thank god you wasted just 7 yrs of life and not more..
I am sure there mgiht be some one who would love you and not someone else at the side as well!!
Good luck Bird fly free now
2007-03-17 12:09:52
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answered by Chattur Maina 2
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If the young man has a father who encourages that kind of behaviour during "guy time" then he may cheat on you. For instance, if he tells him he should be out having more fun instead of settled then it could be a problem.
Unless you boyfriend thinks what his dad is doing is wrong, he may cheat. Ask him how he feels about his dad being with so many women and if he replies it doesn't both him, then be scared.
Also, if you guys have been together for 7 years and aren't engaged or married, I'd say move on if you want to get married one day. That's plenty of time to know if you're compatible on a permanent basis. Did I mention you're not getting any younger ;) Time definitely flies. I was 21 it seems a few years ago and wham, here I am 30.
2007-03-17 12:13:19
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answered by mycountryfamily 4
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I don't think that anyone is more genetically predisposed to cheat on their spouse or significant other. It's most likely not a heritable trait. If anything, it would be a product of a person's environment and background, but in all honesty, I believe that this area is a show of the power of the individual. Nobody is forced to cheat on a love one and the sins of the father are not necessarily the responsibility of the son to carry. Alcohol dependency, on the other hand, may be inherited.
2016-03-29 03:31:09
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answered by Diana 3
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good for you .i believe that the chances are much higher .my first boyfriends father was a big time cheat .his mom and dad where still together and dad had a relationship and a child outside the marriage .my ex was brought up in a household where mommy didnt say anything so my ex became a cheater .boys learn from there fathers so i believe if boys see there fathers cheating they will do the same.just leave him if you belive his cheating your prolly right because
most of the time your gut is telling you something .i feel for you .first i was withh that ex for 3 years and he was a big time cheater and now im with this other guy for 3 years and i think he is cheating but i dont have enough proof and hey guess what this boyfriend i have now his dad is also a cheater .me and my boyfriend have both seen his dad with another women
2007-03-17 12:12:13
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answered by Anonymous
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First off, sorry to hear that your boyfriend is a cheater..As for you Q. its sad in your case but children do follow in their parents footsteps..Maybe not all the time but in most cases..Take your boyfriend for instance, hes seen his own dad treat women as though there nothing but a piece of meat and he thinks its okay to do so himself..This is what I think anyway : If you had a good parent as a role model whom treats women with respect the son/daughter is more than likely to be the same way because they want the respect from their parents..I hope understand what I mean..Best luck in the future..
2007-03-17 12:24:08
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answered by That Girl 5
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It is very possible that people will grow up differently from who their parents are. In fact many kids grow up to be opposite of their parents if they were unhappy with how their parents lived their lives. However, I do not believe you need evidence to know that your boyfriend is cheating, if you feel like he is, he probably is AND if you don't trust him, you don't have much of a relationship anyway.
2007-03-17 12:31:23
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answered by Jocelyn 1
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It can go both ways. My husbands father, always had more than one woman up until right before his death. My husband is totally against things like that and he is a one woman man but there are men out there that will wind up being just like their father. I believe it has something to do wether they are closer to the mother or the father if they turn out like them.
2007-03-17 12:09:41
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answered by Nikki G 2
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wow did you guys have any fun or was it just a treasure hunt for him cheating, for 7 years, you should get a life
2007-03-17 12:08:20
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answered by smash_mouth_man2003 3
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well if your boyfriend idolized his father growing up then yes he will probably cheat, if he was disgusted then no he probably wont
2007-03-17 12:13:19
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answered by musicislife808 2
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in my expereince kids tend to model their parents both the good and the bad.
2007-03-17 12:08:41
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answered by James P 2
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