My boyfriend and I dating for 4 months very much in love and if u will read my other post about am I in a healthy relationship u will get the good side of this and then this one will hold the bad. I just need to know if the bad stuff is something u could over look or if we just need to break up? Even tho I know I love him ......I just need a second opinion. We fight a lot and he says things like I am an idiot and i complain to much and sometimes when I cry he either comforts me or tells me I am stupid and annoying for it and I best stop now or hes haning up and I have to run everything I do by him and Im not aloud to swear and I don't ne more but he promised me he wouldn't either but he still does and if I do by accident its an issue I am expected to act a certain way with family and he how ever he wants I am just feeling controlled also bc he keeps me on the phone untill he wants to get off if I want to he throws a fit! and were over plus he always breaks up with me and gets back.
2007-03-17 11:37:55 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds to me like this is an abusive relationship. Emotional abuse can leave just as many scars as physical ones. and the fact that you have only been together for 4 months and he is already acting like this seems like he is controlling. You dont want to be left in an unhappy relationship and even worse you dont want it to turn physical. It dosent matter how many pro's outweigh the con's, if it is abusive - GET OUT NOW!!! There are so many women in this situation and they dont get out because they "love him" and then when he starts getting physical and they have kids etc. it effects them and she starts wishing she got out at the biginning of all of the signs. I am not saying that it will turn physical but it is a high possibility. You are beautiful and great and you are somebody that matters and there is no man in the world that should make you feel any different. It is still your life. After all it has only been 4 months. Please take a look at these links that I have provided and see if that helps.
2007-03-17 11:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me be real with you! If you don't leave now you will be on some T.V. show talking anout your controlling husband. Forget the good because if you stay then all of the good memories will be lost. He is not a good guy! Girl get a grip and leave him. You don't need a man like that. He is a coward and controlling you makes him feel like a man! A sorry man, might I add. If you don't leave now then you can't blame anyone but yourself!
2007-03-17 11:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away from this man right away. He is a control freak. He wants to keep you under his thumb and control every minute of your life, even your thoughts and words. How can you even begin to think that this is a healthy relationship? It is definitely not. He cares nothing for what brings you joy. Your whole relationship is on his terms. All for him, nothing for you.
Do stop the crying. He's not worth one more tear. Tell him calmly that you want what's best for you and he doesn't even begin to fit in that picture.
2007-03-17 11:44:57 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say tell him if the controlling doesn't stop then you are gone. Be ready to back it up though. Men who have to control usually get much worse as time goes by. Sorry but no matter how much you love him the control factor will ruin your relationship eventually.
2007-03-17 11:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away now. He sounds like an abuser, and if isn't physical abuse now, trust me, it will be. He shouldn't control how you speak, and what you do. And running things by him? Are you kidding me? Let go of him, for good. And by what you' ve wrote, i don't see any good in your relationship, and it most certaintly is not healthy.
2007-03-17 11:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without the bad, who would recognize the good?
2007-03-17 11:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by colesprouselover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl that is NOT a healthy relationship get out of there right now if not the could turn into worse abuse
2007-03-17 11:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by musicsweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like his *** needs to get apack'n like yesterday.
2007-03-17 11:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by loving U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋