i like him but i dont want to tell him...?

Question

we are good friends and i think i like him. how do i tell him, without risking our friendship?

ps- his best friend (& all my friends) say he likes me but........ ^_^ idk

i really want to tell him, but he is kinda immature... idk how he would take it

no. im not having sex with him. we r 13.

Answer 1

Talk things over with him. Tell him you don't want to ruin your friendship by doing so. See how things go. just know that if you date and break up, things will never be the same as they were before. I know from too many experiences like that.

Answer 2

This is so easy. It sounds like you are a little nervous, so the first thing you need to do is control the conversation, and by that I mean put yourself in the most comfortable position that will allow you to speak with great confidence. If that in person, in the car, on the phone (naw not on the phone) Where ever you feel like you are in a most comfortable place, get there so you are controlling the surroundings. Make sure he is not watching sport center or playing playstation or around his boys. And dont start off by saying I need to tell you something or we need to talk about something. Guys will pick up on that quick and do everything in their power to avoid conversations that they are not ready to engage in. So with that said and before you do tell him, ask yourself if you are sure you like him in that way. No sense of you half assing the situation and making it worse if you are really not sure. If you all are truly good friends I would not worry about it at all. However if you are the type of friends that are having sex, you can hang that up because you already gave him the milk and why would he want to invest in the cow at that point (but I could be wrong on that) Anyway back to the good friends, if you all are then I wouldnt worry about that foundation being shaken. Good Friends have good communication between the two or should have it. If you dont then how are you all really good friends then in the first place? Girl go ahead and tell him. You have nothing to be afraid of. Remember fear will keep you from doing alot of things. You dont want to go through life wishing I would of told him how I really felt. Tell him. Not telling him would only hurt you more in the long run. Go for it.

Answer 3

There are ways of showing someone without actually telling them. Talk is cheap anyway. It's a person's actions that tell the real story. Since you two are already friends obviously you both like each other. The cold reality is that if you take it to another level you will lose that friendship, often permanently. Sometimes a friendship lasts longer than a love-ship. What's your hurry? Let things evolve naturally. If it's meant to be something more, the two of you will end up together. If not, you still have a friend.

Answer 4

Just keep doing what you are doing. There is bound to be a time when the two of you will be alone together as friends. Just continue being his friend and see what happens. He may feel the same and not know how to approach you. You might tell him sometime that you like him even better than a friend. Say it with a smile and see his reaction. If he looks shocked, just laugh it off. If not, he may say the same. Be sure to not get real serious about this because you could scare off a friend. You know the best marriages are between friends that become lovers.

Answer 5

welll first kinda flirt with him and if he gives a flirt back. then just flirt with him now and then it should go somewhere. but if u want something faster then tell him straight up. if u say this guy is ur friend and u tell him then he'll understand if he doesnt feel the same. if he doesnt feel the same and acts weird later then he wasn't a friend and u wouldn't want to be with a guy thats not understanding, do u? and plus when u open urself to a guy thats a friend more likely he'll like u more then a friend why do u think he became ur friend in the first place he probably likes u and then he realized u didn't like him and just'd went as ur friends.HOPE THIS HELPS!

Answer 6

These things always happen. It stinks doesn't it? Trust me I've been through things like this. You gotta think through. Do you wanna risk your friendship for something more. Think, is this worth it? If you really like this guy, tell him, but if he doesn't feel the same way, remember friends is all you need. I'm going through the same thing. Just think do you want to lose a friend? But he might also feel the same way. This is my advice, lol, tell him but b4 u do say, " i have to tell u sumthin' but promise me it wont effect our friendship" i guarentee this might work! Trust me, email me, i have really good plans that might help you.

Answer 7

Take him to dinner... (the way to a man's heart is always through food... LOL) and tell him you're interested in being more than friends. See if he agrees and go from there. Obviously, if he'd like to date as well, then bonus! Otherwise, at least you tried and now can be satisfied that you put yourself out there and expressed your feelings. All you can do is try, you can't make him want to date you...

GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

there is no way to tell him without risking your friendship trust me, but if you really wnat to talk to him about your feelings or ask him out try to find out if he feels the same way about you, there is no use in risking a good friendship when the odds aren't with you because he doesn't feel the same way, and trust me when the time is right you will know when and what to do

Answer 9

Wait for the right opportunity to tell him. Maintaining the friendship is all about your reaction. If he doesn't return your feelings, don't act crushed - just shrug and smile and go on like it never happened. If you pout and act like he stomped on your heart, he'll feel guilty about hanging around you.

But that is wosrt case scenario - he could return your feelings and you two could end up together. So just take the chance, you'll never know if you don't try.

Answer 10

I ended up getting freaky with a friend I have know for over 12 years and after we had our little fling we havet talked since and I deeply regret doing it. I miss our friendship!