I have a friend who just recently broke up with his girlfriend. They have a daughter who is 2 years old. The mother has been threatening to turn over all custody to my friend who is the father. It's not that he wouldn't take care of her on a daily basis, but he works long hours and it would be hard for him to have sole custody of his daughter. I would like to know how this process works. I thought that one parent could only take another parent to court if they WANT custody of the child. Can anyone provide me with any insight on this?
2007-03-17 11:16:36 · 6 answers · asked by shanell 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
RUN
if you want this guy to be your boyfriend this chick is going to be in your life for the next 16 years trying to use that child as a pawn.
She can give custody of the child to him or turn her child over to the state.
If she turns the child over to the state there will be a hearing at which he will be invited to attend.
If he does not, the child goes into foster care.
I doubt that she will do that.
it is just a threat because the mom is probably stressed right now about having to deal with a toddler on her own.
2007-03-17 11:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by lisa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a divorced parent I have to say that the court is best to answer this question. They will find which of the two parents is best suitable for the child and they WILL split visitation and custody anyway.
However, tell your friend that if the MOTHER of this child is threatening to "give her to him" then he should consider taking her so no harm comes to her as a neglectful mom. She sounds like she could just leave her anywhere if its convinient for her. So the child sounds better off with the Dad. Also Dad can take her to court for support and have her help pay for Daycare so he does not have to give up long hours of work to support his family best!
2007-03-17 18:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by ChelYox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After my first husband died, I was alone and had sole full time custody of my children and would occasionally have babysitters, but did it, otherwise, alone.
If something were to happen to your friend's baby's mama, he would be expected to take his child full time anyway. Why hesitate now?
He made the baby, he should think nothing of being the one to raise it.
Perhaps the reason the mother is threatening to turn over sole custody is because he as the baby's daddy isn't holding his weight.
Sorry, no sympathy from me. My husband has to fight tooth and nail for every second he gets with his children, that someone wouldn't just automatically accept full custody of his children, for what ever reason, irks me to no end.
2007-03-17 18:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by shoestring_louise 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How sad, you cannot force anyone to have custody, this is so sad, the child would be better off with the dad, a child can feel if it is not wanted, oh i cannot believe how sad this is, give your friend lots of support, and help him find a large support system, he needs all the friends he can get right now
2007-03-17 19:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor little girl. It looks like neither parent wants the full time responsibility. Regardless of whether or not there is "joint" custody, the custodial parent has the REAL responsibility for the child. Apparently, in this case, neither one wants it. How very tragic for her and selfish of them.
2007-03-17 18:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like neither one of them really want this little girl. Tell your friend to talk to the girlfriend about giving this little girl up for adoption so she can be with parents that do want to take on the responsibility and do want to spend time with her. They can always arrange for open adoption so they can visit and stay in the little girl's life if that's what they want.
2007-03-17 20:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋