My two boys (6 and 5) and I share a room at my mother's house. There are 3 bedrooms and 7 people so everyone is crowded. I have a bunk bed for the boys, my bed and a chest of drawers, dresser, and smaller dresser for our clothes. There is not enough room to have much else, but I feel horrible because they can't even play with their toys comfortably. We have been here since July and it doesn't look like we are going anywhere soon. Does anone have any suggestions? I am ou of ideas. I have bought storage bins, shelves, etc., which are all great ideas, but I don't even have enough room for them. Help please. I am desperate.
2007-03-17 11:16:35 · 14 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We are at my mom's due to my getting a divorce. My husband turned gay and relinquished his rights to the kids. I receive no child support. I am currently working for the school district so I get out of school with the boys and save on daycare. Also, the school district will pay for me to continue with my teaching degree after I have worked as an Aide for 1 year. I am trying very hard to save money to file bankruptcy to get a fresh beginning. Please do not think I am a lowlife unemployed mom. My kids are my life and I am trying to do the best for them. I was a medical assistant before this, but I had no one to watch the kids when I had long hours. Also, the other people in the house are my 16 yr old bro, and 12 yr old sister who share a room, and my mom and her husband.
2007-03-17 11:31:50 · update #1
go play with them out side go to the park have a picnic good luck
2007-03-17 11:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try and use as much vertical space as you can, if there is a closet in the room try hanging as much as you can and add some shelving up top if you could eliminate the dressers that would be helpful. I use some rubbermaid bins in my son's room that slide under his bed (they are meant to go under the bed) we keep all of his clothes in these. For yourself what about a pullout type of bed or a hide a bed, then perhaps you could put a small TV and have a place to get away in the day. Also great organization and elimination of anything that isn't necessary, perhaps you could store some things elsewhere like extra toys and swap them out every couple of weeks to keep things interesting. Ikea has great space saving gadets, even a loft bed for yourself so you could use the space underneath for your boys to play if that is affordable.
2007-03-17 18:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by justpeachytoday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Storage drawers with slides or rollers under the beds help. Murphy beds are very expensive so I made a bed that was fastened and hinged on a wall and was able to fold it up to the side of the wall and latch it in the up position. That made extra floor space for during the day. I stacked a pair of dressers and that worked out well. Put the kids stuff in the lower drawers. Use your imagination and you can do wonders for a small room. Good luck.
2007-03-17 18:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so it doesn't look like your going anywhere?
That's okay.
And what is also okay is that your boys aren't teenagers yet!
Boys of 5 and 6 years don't really care about own space, it's mostly just playing and having fun!
Take them to the park, get involved at your local library maybe? Take them there once a week and read them some books!
Take them to the gym and get a membership so you can get fit aswell as them! Ask them if they have any hobbies for example.. Football.Get them involved in the local football club for under 10's?
A futon also seems like a good idea and whilst they are out at school and if you don't work, then you can sometimes change the room around and make it like a little wonderland and it would be a surprise for them! They would love playing around in their newly decorated room!
Hope this helps :) And good luck with the room! :)
2007-03-17 18:26:22 · answer #4 · answered by twistedstarlight. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont no if you would find this good enough, but if its only for a short period of time well then cant you get bunk beds that have a pull out bed from underneath. that way when you have slept you can put your bed under theirs and they would more room to play with their toys. just a suggestion. if not couldnt you put the boys in the same bed. one at the top one at the bottom, that way you can have the bottom or top bunk and get rid of your bed??
it must be horrible for you. I am not sure where you are from but in the uk you can contact the housing people, they will see you are over crowded and will give you a place for you and your boys
2007-03-17 18:25:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really hard-working, good mother. You may feel like you don't want to take assistance, but there is no way you should be living like that! Since you recieve no child support and have 2 young children with just your income, you should be able to get free medical and dental, subsidized housing, food stamps, WIC, and free child care. You can easily be living a lot better than you are living now. Financial assistance was meant for people in your situation. Take it! At least until you get on your feet!
2007-03-17 18:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kristine R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible for them to share a room with any other kids, and you share with another adult? The stuff could stay with the adults, so the kids would have more room. Oprah did a makeover on an apt the size of a 1car garage. With love all things are possible.
2007-03-17 18:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by Fallon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you living there? if you can not afford to live on your own maybe you need to seek some help from the government. they help people find apartments and pay rent and bills....food stamps and the such......you need to get your own plan for you kids to have a great life. take your kids to the library to have fun if you can not leave your mothers house. take them to the park for picnic lunches.....
as for the room that you need in this house you will not find it....you will just have to adjust until something else comes along.
2007-03-17 18:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can start looking for a job and work hard enough to save enough money so that you can move out of your mother's house and try to be an independent person. If you can bring them to this world, then the least thing you can do for them is to provide them a decent place, a decent meal, a decent education, a decent cloth, and a decent childhood to grow up.
2007-03-17 18:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by Infinite 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You haven't said why you landed at your mother's. Why aren't you trying to find another place of your own? Yes, that room is too crowded. Not to mention you have no privacy. Do you have a job? Then get out and start finding a place.
2007-03-17 18:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a trundle bed that goes under the bunk beds for yourself, which slips under during the day.
2007-03-17 18:20:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋