My 3 1/2 year old is really attached to my husband and me. She wont even stay with her grandparents, she starts crying for us. What can we do to break her from this. We want to send her to pre-k in september, but we are affraid she will cry for us the hole time.
2007-03-17 11:16:20 · 11 answers · asked by Brenda W 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
very simple just take it slow do not force your child to stay with anyone until they are ready. now after saying this,
this is what you do. first let them spend time with their grandparents while you are there. then quiety leave without them knowing it. ha! i don't mean to run off exactly just go out side while your child is being entertained by their grandparents. it won't be two long before your child will noticed your gone. explain to your parents that when your child ask for them. they are to take the child to a window and say to the child there your parents are. this is the first step. partical seperation from the child not to dramatic at first. just a short distance away at first. the whole idea is to let the child learn that you are not going to leave them. as i said take it SLOW!! after a few times of being out of the child sight you move to the next stage. you and your spouse take a short walk. if your child starts crying have the grandparents explain that you just went for a short walk. and have them take the child outside and wait for you to return. the first time the child will be impatiently waiting for your return. but after a few times this will change to the child getting bored waiting for your return. then step three. leave and drive a short distance away explaining to the child that you will be right back. yes this might be rough on the child at first. but by now it is time that the child has some familarity with being left alone with his grandparents or your close friends. it is at this time you both need to start spending time alone on dates or just going to movies. you deserive it and if you don't you will start letting your child destroy your relationship with each other. not good when it really take two people to raise a child. PS: == On the child first night alone with your grandparents or close friends. let them know and the child know that if he is unconfortable staying with them you will call his parents and they will come and pick them up. usually this only happens once or twice. the child really just wants to know that you are there for him if they really needs you. (the other half of you know who.)
2007-03-17 18:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Vivianna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start now having others watch her more--make sure you choose people who know the situation and are willing to tolerate the crying. Hopefully Grandparents will help with this; you might also find a mommy friend who understands the need to accustom your daughter to the care of others who would watch her for a couple hours a week, even if she cries the whole time. She has to get used to it, and if you wait till the first day of Pre-K, it will be hell for everyone in the building.
2007-03-17 14:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you can do is to leave her with her grandparents let her know that you WILL be back and then walk out the door. YES she will cry the entire time...but you have to be consistent. If you can leave her with her grandparents for a couple of hours each day, assure her you will return a hug, a kiss and out the door. It is simple seperation anxiety. After a few days she won't even notice you're gone.
2007-03-17 13:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I heard that if you ease them into it slowly it will less of a traumatic event. You could go to the pre k and play with your child for a little while. I am sure they would let you when class isn't going. And if you do this every so often then the day that she goes to pre-k say, Mommy and Daddy will be back in a little while, why don't you play here for now. And give her a hug and walk away, she will get the idea once you come back and after a few days of it she will be more relaxed.
Hope that helps.
2007-03-17 11:22:10 · answer #4 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-18 22:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your child is always around you and your husband and no one else, it is hard for them to grasp the concept of being with another adult. But, they will get used to it. I am a preschool teacher and many children will cry when their parents are leaving or left, but after awhile it could be minutes, hours, days or a few weeks, they will adjust. Don't worry so much, she will be okay. You and your husband will be more tramatized then she will be!!
2007-03-17 13:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send the child to the grandparents, give them a hug, and send a photo album and a tape w your voice reading a bedtime story. after a few times i'm sure they will be fine.
2007-03-17 12:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by pjc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do it gradually, let her stay at grandma's for 1 hour, see what will happen, my daughter is 3 and attached to both of us, we did an hour here and an hour there @ her grandma's, she cried and asked for us, they normally do @ that age especially if attached to parents, we did just a cpl of times, and did marvelous @ the thrid time, asked for us, but didnt cry.
2007-03-17 11:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by ch3ckmeyt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk her into "being a big girl" and its normal for some kids to start crying for their parents in preschool.
2007-03-17 11:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by 11:11 pm<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you will need some help..........take her to grandmas and before you leave look her in the eye at her level and say we will be back to get you in a few hours......i love you.....and thats it then have the grandparens entertain her well you leave with an activity and do this a few times it should get easier.............good luck
2007-03-17 11:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by first time mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋