if i die, what happens to my son?

Question

my bloke and me have both got 'shared/equal responibility' of my son. but if i died soon and i didnt want my man to have sole custody of our son then who would?
i haven't made a will but i would rather my son went to live with my mother or sister than his drunken dad!!!

i hvaent married him!
and also, he wasnt a drunk when i met him(just the last 6mths or so) and he had 2 kids before

Answer 1

He will be adopted by Madonna, or Angelina Jolie.

Answer 2

I was once told that you can put your wishes in a will, your mum or sister would have to apply for custody and the courts would look into it, and they would take into accounts the wishes you put in a will. Unfortunately there is no guarantee that your ex won't get custody. Be positive, the chances of anything happening to you are slim. I used to worry about it when i first got divorced but i decided that life was too short to spend it worrying about something that was unlikely to happen

Answer 3

I am afraid that if his Father is alive and willing to take the child , and also has equal custody, then the Child will go to his Dad. You may want to go talk to a Lawyer and make your request, that if you should Die your Mom will get custody of your son. Do it ASAP so death does not cheat you out of a say so.

Answer 4

you have to state this in your will that you want your mum or sister to obtain shared custody of your son. However when you die your ex husband can contest the will and it will be up to the courts to decide whether it is in your sons best intrests to live sole custody with his father or shared as you have stated in your will with your mother or sister.

Answer 5

It is extremely important that you write a will and also inform people of your wishes. I suggest you see a solicitor because his father could automatically get custody of him unless it can be proven that he is unfit. Also it depends on the age of the child because if it went to court and he was of a certain age he could express his interests as to where he lived.

Answer 6

Make a will, now. Who's to say you wont get hit by a bus or something tomorrow. You need to be prepared for all possibilities.

Put it down, in black and white. Have it notarised or whatever lawyers do, to make it legal. This will ensure that your wishes are known.

Answer 7

He would probably go to his dad as he has equal rights. I reckon you'd probably have to go to court for that. You wouldn't have full say what would happen if you wrote it in your will. Unless there was somewhere in your will that the father could sign to agree that he would go to your side of the family. Maybe you should talk to your Solicitor?

Answer 8

You can file a will and like lets say you want your aunt or sister to have him,the will says who you want to have custody of your son.

Answer 9

I got around this by writing a will. You can buy a set and write it yourself pretty cheaply - then lodge it with your solicitor, making sure they witness it first!! Your wish would be considered paramount by any subsequent court case. It's given me peace of mind. Good luck x x x

Answer 10

effective you probably did.... in case you actual did which you have got standard that he grow to be autistic and had subjects. sorry, i doubt you performed with him at any time of his life.. he grow to be guarded and extremely sick maximum of his life. you have got additionally standard they have been scientologists and that they are strict on many factors... so are you besides would a scientologist? this additionally saved the boy from getting appropriate preserve his condition, many faiths have their barriers and a number of of can are available the time of issues exceedingly in circumstances of jett. yeh, i wager, you will possibly be and do something on line, you know that by employing now.

Answer 11

then make a will and include your wishes regarding your child in it. you cannot guarantee this would happen but your mum/sister would have a better chance of getting custody if you did this.