I`m sitting here listening to music drinking on my own with only my son for company,i`m feeling a bit down as the guy i thiught liked me seems to have lost interest and i dont know why we hadn`t even been for a drink yet!!
2007-03-17 11:03:26 · 18 answers · asked by onlyme 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like a saddo,i`m 24 and should be enjoying my life but i`m a single mum and my friends are all in relatioships so i`m sitting drinking on my own on a saturday night:(
2007-03-17 11:05:25 · update #1
you not the only one i like someone but they dont see me and it hurts
the only thing i can recommend is enjoy yout time with your son he might help you fell better
sorry
2007-03-17 12:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by Lewis D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are sad. I think you are spending too much time thinking about how much fun your friends are having and you are home with your baby. You are feeling trapped by your decisions. Here are some things you can do tonight:
1) Throw that drink down the sink. It will not make you less sad, it will make you more depressed.
2) Do something constructive. Clean out a closet. Bake a cake. Search on the internet for a recipe or exercise program or just play a game online.
3) If the guy you like has lost interest, you need to move on. Forget it. There are plenty of guys out there and you have to find the right one. You won't find him by drinking at home listening to music.
4) Join a club, parenting class, or volunteer at a charity. You will meet new people and your life will gain meaning. Also, stay out of bars or pubs to meet guys. I've never heard of a case where that works out.
5) Rejoice in the fact that you have a son. I'm guessing that he is happy and healthy. You need to be happy and healthy or as he gets older he will see your behavior and copy it.
If you are depressed and needy in your relationships, there won't be a man that will ever stay. No man will come along to fix everything for you. You will have to do it yourself. Good luck, Sweetie!
2007-03-17 18:16:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Laughter is the best medicine, not alcohol. Booze is a known depressant, drinking will only increase your sadness. I know it's sometimes hard being single, in this "couple's world" but the thing you gotta realize is that when people are in a relationship, they aren't necessarily happy. You don't see what happens behind closed doors, your friends most likely have more stress and constantly b*tch about what morons they're dating. Not you. You're strong. You didn't settle for a moron who's too stupid to see you for you. You gotta stay strong for you, and your son. You are teaching him it's okay to be alone and that you don't have to be a couple to be strong and matter. Be strong then a man as strong as you will come along, but the longer you sit with a broken wing, the more opportunistic a**holes you will attract, my personal advice? pick up the book "He's Just Not That Into You" it will change your life.
2007-03-17 18:12:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im sitting home too . I am 24yr old mom wiht 2 lil girls with no love interest in site . So cheers lol even though im only drinkin pepsi .
So play with your son , he will cheer you up . I tell everyone I dont need love from a man I got 2 lil girls . Sides your son looks at you like your the best thing in the world .
2007-03-17 18:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by mommaknowsbest 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can relate to "he guy i thiught liked me seems to have lost interest and i dont know why we hadn`t even been for a drink yet!!" ... except i dont drink.
anyway, i guess, just keep yourself occupied
if he likes you, he'll come back. no need to sweat over it, especially if you have tried to be in touch and stuff
email me if you wanna talk about it
2007-03-17 18:14:45 · answer #5 · answered by rose 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like the first person said, you are still so young and have so much time to do what you want to do. Sometimes you just have to go out and make things happen. Don't wait for things to come to you. Your friends probably don't know that you are lonely, so why don't you make it clear how you feel, and get one of your friends to do a little babysitting for you.
2007-03-17 18:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sid S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well alcohol is a depressant so stop drinking that for a start.
if i was you i would start doing a regular exersize workout (even if you have a good body) when your son is in bed, as exersize makes you feel good as it releases the hormones you need...
why dont you ring this guy and ask him what is going on and tell him when you want to meet up a time and place. if he says no ring your mates and organise a girly night out if they wont help you out then you need to consider who your friends really are.
2007-03-17 18:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey dont worry about it I'm 21 and I'm in tonight aswell and my bf has just rung me up and he's so drunk and has gone and got himself lost in a city, he was supposed to be with his mates but he's lost them too. So dont worry boys are hopeless anyway and its so annoying how we need them, or think we need them!
If that guy has lost interest then stuff him! Honestly dont think on it, I know how it feels tho cos I have been single most of my life apart from about a yr now. Dont worry the right guy will come along. Just focus on your son for now and arrange a date to go out with your mates (tho I'm sure you dont need me telling you that)!
2007-03-17 18:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on girl, how can you be down - you've got your boy, your youth (trust me, at my age you are youthful) your whole life ahead of you where you can make your own luck and achieve whatever you want.
Don;t let sad-*** blokes get you down, your worth more than that.
Failing that, bring your booze round here, I've just killed off my bottle of wine and I'm still thirsty!
2007-03-17 18:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by The Wandering Blade 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try doeing something completely random, take me for example, when im down (ok i sound nuts doing this) is shout, and dance, and make a prat of myself just to see others laugh... NO im not a circus clown (with i was though, Dah dah, dah dah dah dah, dah dah, dah daaah!).. But Cheer up! Go on! i dare you! If you dont i will act like a clown again! (NO, thats what i want.....) i will be boaring like squidward! :)
2007-03-17 18:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Robert S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋