my boyfriend says my doubts get in the way of our happiness and I think he is right, I don't want it to be like this at all. What creates this cycle of doubt?
2007-03-17 11:01:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop letting your boyfriend do your thinking for you. He says that because it's easier than dealing with the real issue of what's bothering you. Talk to someone else who can be more objective.
2007-03-17 11:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by krak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be the exact same way, and sometimes I still can be like that. It can really have a big impact on a relationship, and mine used to. Mine all roots from past relationships, I was hurt badly by guys that i trusted and in the end they broke my heart. Maybe it comes from past relationships, or there's a possibility that you're insecure. In that situation you have to just believe in yourself, and know that he is with you for a reason, he wants to be with you, it's his choice! Obviously you have nothing to be insecure about it this guy really wants to be with you!
If this really is affecting the relationship then you have to do something about it. The good thing is that you do notice it, which can help you fix this problem. It's hard to completely get rid of these feelings, but you have to trust him until he gives you a reason not to, that's my motto.
If you feel yourself doubting him, you have to put those feelings aside and really think about the situation, and if he would really do what you're worried about, chances are... he wouldn't if he really loves you.
Odds are that these feeling will be in the back of your mind for a while, but you have to put all your trust in him. If you love him, and if you want this relationship to work, you have to, and it will be worth it in the end. I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-17 18:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by brooke3348 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are just tuned in it .. being worried and shy is treated with being arrogant and funny. sometimes it works. you can try it too. i mean be whoever you are and keep doubts and stuff but do it in a funny way. it will non bother him as much.
2007-03-17 18:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Di Snow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a Hypnotherapist in your area to remove your doubts.
2007-03-17 18:03:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
honey what are you worring about? if it is your relationship with him...has something went wrong to make you worry? what ever you are worrying about you just need to work thru and find the problem and solve it.
2007-03-17 18:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lack of trust.
You've got to trust him if you want it to work.
But ask yourself, is it really worth it?
2007-03-17 18:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Friedrich Nietzsche 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
previous relationship perhaps
it's so hard to get along with women who have had a hard time before...
2007-03-17 18:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Martin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immaturity, plain and simple.
2007-03-17 18:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not the right guy for you.
2007-03-17 18:04:26 · answer #9 · answered by Swini 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont know. but i do that too. but if he is talking about sexual stuff run away from him cuz he is trying to convince you that it will make you happier but it wont. please if this is the case take my advice!!!!!!
2007-03-17 18:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋