My bf and I have been together for 13 months and are very committed.
His grandma has been in the hospital the past few days. She is getting a pacemaker.
Lastnight, I left a voicemail saying that I hope his grandma is okay and everything is fine. And that if he's not at the hospital tomorrow (today), I hope he comes and sees me (I just came back from Spring Break). And if he DOES go to the hospital, if he could come drop by the broken camera he still has so I can send it in to get it fixed asap. I also said call me back when he gets the message.
He got off work at 4. He would usually call me afterwards. I understand his grandma is in the hospital. But is it THAT HARD to call me back and let me know what's going on? Is it that hard to return a voicemail..... to your own girlfriend.... not just girlfriend.... someone you plan on spending the rest of your life with?! Am I expecting too much of him to just call me back?
Should I call him? Or should I not bother?
2007-03-17 10:53:44 · 22 answers · asked by Rita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you do call him, don't be as attacking as you were in this question. He's probably spending time with his family right now, you don't know what might have happened with his grandmother while you were away if you weren't in contact. Just give him some space, call him if you want to, but if you do, please be kind and sympathetic. He'll get with you when he feels he can.
2007-03-25 10:41:53 · answer #1 · answered by usa_armywife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should try to be what he needs right now, when he's dealing with his grandmother's rather serious condition, rather than insisting he be what you need (ie, call when you think he should, arrange to get a camera to you, etc.). Honestly, why on earth would you worry about a broken camera when he's dealing with a broken grandmother? How about offering to go to the hospital with him and offer support rather than telling him to come see you? I think a little less concentration on your wants and a little more concentration on him might be in order at the moment. That's part of being a girlfriend - or even just a friend - when someone is dealing with something hard like that.
I can understand being annoyed that he said he'd call and didn't - you have every right to be annoyed by that. But try to have a little understanding for what he's dealing with, and realize that when people get to the limits of what they can handle, they practice avoidance when it comes to a situation where someone might hand them more to deal with. In other words, if he thought you were going to give him a "chore" (ie, bring the camera when he was exhausted), he may have avoided calling - perhaps even subconciously avoided it by "forgetting - because he just couldn't handle one more thing.
That's all speculation, of course, but if he's at all close to his grandmother, that kind of news can be pretty emotionally overwhelming.
2007-03-17 11:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by romipenne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey he is worried about his grandmother. it seems they are very close. so maybe you should chill and back off him a little. after all you did say that you two were in a commited relationship. i think you are just a little jealous and don't realize it. he will be back to normal as soon a grandma is better. im sure the camera is the last thing on his mind right now. so be patient and he will be back to you soon. good luck
2007-03-25 08:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you feel like your bf is ignoring you, but you have to understand that he is going through a hard time and he may not be using the best judgement since he is so distracted. Just support him and eventually when his family issues get straightened out he will probably return your phone calls again.
2007-03-17 11:01:04 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call him. Ask him wats going on. Talk 2 him about it. Tell him that u understand about his grandma but u need him 2.
2007-03-25 06:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are both seriously committed like you say -chill out give him the space and time he needs right now he will call you.Call him again just to let him know your thinking of him and when he is ready to give you a call back.Support him and he will come around he's just pre-occupied.
2007-03-17 11:06:18 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the hospital to see him and pay your respects to grandma. His feelings may be hurt. You're being a little self-centered.
2007-03-25 09:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by nelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give him a little slack.He isn't your puppet. Also he may be extremely worried about his grandmother or any one of a number of things. I don't like it when people try to exercise dominion over me! Generally I will let it be known firmly, but persistence in controlling will get you deleted from my life. Maybe he is feeling overly controlled?
2007-03-17 11:03:10 · answer #8 · answered by Curmudgeon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relax! He's not doing anything bad he's just going through something hard right now. Sometimes when people are coping with something difficult they push people away. I know it's sad, but it's true. Just try to understand what he's going through and TRUST him.
2007-03-25 06:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by ali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go visit his grandmother and that will show that you care for his familly and him. this has nothing to do with the question but it is a good step in a relationship.
2007-03-25 07:08:24 · answer #10 · answered by blond hottie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋