I went to visit her last week and realized that she is the most sweetest, adorable, loving, and caring woman I have ever met. She is filled with outter beauty and inner beauty. Thing is I don't know what to do with my feelings. She is straight and I know that she loves a good friend of mine..but I don't think he is the one for her. I want to tell her but I am scared and fear rejection because I am a woman myself. I am going to go see her next month and I can't wait. All I do is think of her but I know the feelings are one sided but I think if she would give me just once chance at it that it could be a beautiful thing. I want a relationship with her...I want to make her breakfast in bed, leave notes around the house, hugs all day...and just to express how much I feel and how special she is. Should I tell her or keep my mouth shut and have the best friendship a girl could as for.
2007-03-17 10:53:28 · 15 answers · asked by SNK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be VERY careful here. Apparently you are not straight, but you also have to realize that if your friend doesn't already have some curiosity about the same-sex, she may react very negatively to learning you like her as more than a platonic friend.
You're in a tough spot to care about someone who may well be unable to care about you in the same way...however, it's also not for you to say the guy she likes isn't a good match for her...that's for her to decide.
Keep being her friend if you can...and perhaps discuss (in general terms) how she feels about bisexuality and if she seems open or curious, you may delicately approach your feelings toward her...but also realize doing so could cause her to become so uncomfortable that the friendship could be forever changed, if not ended.
It's a gamble.
2007-03-17 10:59:03 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say that you know she is straight and you know she loves a good friend of yours,but you don't think hes the one for her.Do you feel this way because of your feelings for her?I think she feels safe with you as a friend because you know that she is a straight woman who loves your friend and she probably feels that you respect these boundaries.If indeed she feels the same way about you,in a matter of time you would know,but I wouldn't hold out waiting for this to happen or go on thinking and dreaming that's its going to happen,because its probably not,and I don't think revealing your feelings is worth losing this friendship over,because it may make her uncomfortable to the point of not wanting to be around you.
2007-03-17 18:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by FYIIM1KO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you said that she is a very caring and loving women then if you come out and tell her the truth i mean what is the worst that will happen she can reject you i mean right. You can't go and keep this inside forever just tell her how you feel and see how she will react. Just give it a shot!!!
2007-03-17 18:00:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm. as you describe her i think that she will be flattered if you tell her about how you feel. one month is quite a time. wait and see. if you feel the same way just tell her .. also, if you think that your friend is not the right match for her tell that too. but better start with your feelings and than go to the friend cause otherwise it will look like you are deceived by being jealous. good luck.
2007-03-17 18:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by Di Snow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm thats a tough one to answer. But if you feel that strongly for her maybe you should just tell her how you feel without coming on too strong. Just let her know that you didnt expect anything to come from it but you just wanted her to know. Hopefully she will be flattered and continue being friends with you. Good luck with whatever your decision.
2007-03-17 17:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep her as a friend, u better 4 get these feelings you have! She is straight! You will freak her out!
2007-03-17 17:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by snowwhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in love. well, maybe not actual love, but close enough. when you go see this lady next month, tell her how you feel. even if she doesn't return the feelings, if she's any kind of decent person, she'll respect your feelings and won't make fun of you. and then you'll just be friends.
2007-03-17 17:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by fab expert101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, women are women and men are men for a reason, I don't care what you think, you are suppose to be with a guy no matter what if you are a girl. If that guy isn't the right person for your female friend, then oh well.
2007-03-17 18:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just keep your relationship with her. Unless she hates lesbians, tell her about you, and she'll understand. You know, i read a book like this before clled DAIRY QUEEN, however, nly a tiny bit talked of a situaition like this
2007-03-17 17:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by ????????? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, but if she's straight I don't think letting her know of your feelings is going to change her mind at all. And it could do more damage than good.
2007-03-17 17:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋