how do I tell my boyfriend I don't want him spending so much money on him? He needs to get a new starter on his car because his is going bad but he's more worried about spending money on me and he won't put that money aside to fix his starter. What do I do and how can I tell him to stop spending so much on me without hurting his feelings? He says he's only happy when he spends money on me
2007-03-17 10:43:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wish you were my girlfriend!
2007-03-17 10:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Zorro 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
That is beyond sweet really, that he loves spending money on the woman he cares about. But you already know that in order for you two to have a future together he must start saving money and choosing to spend some on things that really need to be taking care of.
Bug him about the starter that he needs, "when are you going to get around to that car honey? don't you think it needs to be fixed, how about if we are out and it breaks down?" make him see that he must use his money on other things.
I agree that you should try to let him know in a nice way that gifts are great and you really appreciate the thought put behind them but you would much rather have him saving money on the things you two will need much more later on. Good Luck!
2007-03-24 21:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Rissy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy him the starter! Or just take his money and invest it into the starter! In the long run if the two of you plan on staying together he will have to mature out of this money spending stage! Be firm! You will have to hurt his feelings in order to help him in the long run!
2007-03-17 17:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
U take him out to a humble restarant give him flowers and spend the night in his arms at last say this night is more expensive than all the gifts in the world
2007-03-25 14:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by salar b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to stop buying you gifts and that you'd prefer the cash. Save up enough to get his starter fixed. He will appreciate it. By the way have you ever watched an episode of Judge Judy?
2007-03-17 17:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that him spending money on you does not make YOU happy-- tell him that being with him makes you happy and that it makes you happy when he buys the things he needs.
2007-03-25 17:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Erik M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is kind messed up mentally. Your answer is-you don't tell him to stop spending money on you. Enjoy it while it lasts. This person is extremely co-dependent, figure out how to stop attracting people like this unless this is what you enjoy-watching him screw his life up because his priorities are not right. Sounds like he is desperate to be loved and that means there are lots of other buried emotional issues lurking.
2007-03-17 17:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Refuse to go out until he fixes his car. Tell him not to even call until he fixes his car. He needs to be practical first and do "date" stuff later.
2007-03-17 17:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've flat out refused expensive presents. I always assert that it's not the amount spent, more of the thoughtfulness of the gift. But hey, that couch purse he got me was pretty nice.
2007-03-17 17:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by bonnieXX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're a starter collecter. They are very strange parts. Let him buy one to start your collection.
2007-03-25 17:50:38 · answer #10 · answered by m.a.b. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he really cares about you...! how sweet. try sitting down and talking. you don't have to be like "we need to talk..." whenever you are together i'm sure you talk all the time. start it out as a regular conversation. then make your way slowly and carefully into that subject. make sure he knows you love him and you appreciate it but its just a little too much.
2007-03-25 13:58:28 · answer #11 · answered by cupcaek. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋