Last night I looked in my boyfriends phone and saw that he texted a message to one of his friends for him to tell this girl that he will be looking forward to seeing her pretty smile again. I flipped!!! Friday night he had plans with the guys and I don't go of course because it's just the guys. But come to find out it was going to be 3 other girls and my boyfriend and 2 of his friends. Sounds like a triple date to me but he's denying it to the fullest. We got into a huge fight and he took his stuff and stayed out last night. Were broken up now but what I want to know is did I make the right decision or did I over react? This type of thing constantly happens and I think that it's extremely disrespectful and not only that. He doesn't even bother to cover up his tracks. At least delete the messages before you come home.
2007-03-17 10:38:29 · 25 answers · asked by misscancer10 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your reaction was a natural one, I'd have probably done the same thing. Looking back on it, you might have over reacted, and maybe his talking to another girl/lying to you was a one time mistake. If you really care for each other and have just been going through some tough times together, he could have been "testing the waters"--but it was still wrong to be talking about another girl like that AND lying to you. If I were you, I'd give both of you some time to cool off, and then talk to him about what happened, so maybe you will be able to have some happy memories of your relationship again. Give him a chance to be honest with you, and if he seems sincere in wanting a relationship with you and you think he'll be good to you, don't turn him away forever. At least let him explain his side of the story (and listen without arguing) before you end a relationship that you enjoyed.
2007-03-17 10:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by Jill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you checking his telephone? Do you no longer have self assurance him? Has he given you motives to be spying on him? in the shape you took the time to call and easily enable someone %. up the phone why did not you be bold adequate to ask in the journey that they knew him? the position they incoming or outgoing calls? in the journey that they lasted no longer as a lot as a minute isn't that telling you that he did not communicate to someone? He did basically what you probably did dialed the vast form and in the present day hung up? How do you know that the female answering the cellular is the nature he replaced into once observing for or attempting to consult besides? that can be a sister, a cousin or per chance a woman buddy to a buddy of his. you should quit digging for concerns because of very actuality i'm particular if he did a similar to you you'll not like it. quit searching and digging and be lady adequate to keep in touch including your guy. i'm particular he'd note of you asking him more beneficial than he'd note of you spying on him.
2016-12-02 03:47:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did not over react. This guy cant be trusted, good thing you guys broke up. I would have done the same thing. He, as your boyfriend, should know better than to go out with girls. Even going out without you is bad. What do you think guys do on a guys night out? pick up girls. My man knows better than doing that. You made a great decision, Good Girl.
2007-03-17 10:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you made the right decision. i mean you have proof in the text. its just plain as day. however, if this is the first time, you could've given in a little. but if it hurt that much then, of course, you made a perfect decision. but also if nothing happened then you did over react. i have a friend whos boyfriend went to like third base with another girl, but they are still together (my friend and the guy). so it just depends on your feelings and the situation and the past.
2007-03-17 10:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by LC 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Naw. You made the right decision. The proof was right there. Guys get really upset when you figure them out and try to manipulate you and twist it around on you for some reason. That never works with me, nevertheless. If I find out you've cheated or saw another girl, I'm done. There is nothing a guy can say to me to change my mind. You gotta hold your ground.
2007-03-17 10:44:55 · answer #5 · answered by UVRay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...that's a date sweetie. Let him go. You made the right decision. He was probably looking for a fight as an excuse to stay out all night...sorry. Let him go!
2007-03-17 10:49:56 · answer #6 · answered by YaShen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a dick.. My fiance had some texts like that on her phone too..She said it's nothing..I made us go to counceling..we are still together (sorta)..as far as I know she hasen't talked to this guy in quite a while..you two need to talk things out..you really didn't over react..
2007-03-17 10:44:20 · answer #7 · answered by Beav 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was honest and said his buddies and their friends were going out and he was joining them, thats one thing, but keeping it from you and going out in a trheesome is an insult to you, Dump him, and I think i'm just saying what you are thinking.
Good luck
2007-03-17 10:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this was the first time i'd say give him a chance, maybe he was telling the truth. But if it truely has happened multiple times then you should leave him for good.
2007-03-17 10:43:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kenny Smooth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he wants some on the side get rid of him comfrint him and put your foot down find someone that wants to be with youYOU CAN DO 100% BETTER
2007-03-17 10:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋