i know its almost impossible to totally erase him from my memory but, how do i forget about this guy i used to like?
i dont like him anymore but i see him everyy day in school. and i know he doesnt like me anymore either but hes just so nice and sweet sometimes. and my old feelings keep coming back. its so annoying. how do i forget about him??
thanks
2007-03-17 10:31:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh mannn, I've been THAT guy that you're talking about.
You're going to have to talk it out with him. Tell him that you really, really appreciate his kindness and his nice-guy personality but you are trying to get over him.
If he is a nice-guy, he'll understand. Maybe throwing in a line like, "a great guy like you deserves a great girl. I'll just be getting in the way." That may help too.
Just remember, the two of you will be completly ignoring each other for AWHILE. I'm talking like...5 months at least or however long it takes to get over him.
During that time, take the advice of all the other Answerers and maybe find a rebound activity or person.
That's what the girl did with me. We were very, very akward for about 6 months but it slowly got better and now we have no feelings for each other but we still chat and even joke around about it. We both give each other guy/girl advice and all that.
It just takes time though.
good luck!
love hurts huh?
2007-03-17 10:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by the_omz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying, that sometimes the best way to help yourself is to help someone else.
For example, a lonely retired people might tutor students because it not only takes his mind off his problem, but in a way helps solve it.
By the way, you still like this guy, so would it be so impossible for you two to just be friends, without any romantic involvement? The famous singer John Denver had the most unusual divorce from his wife Cassandra: afterwards they went out to dinner to celebrate together. They still liked one another; they just didn't want to be married.
That's the way to go!
2007-03-17 18:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't mind doing so, go up to him and talk to him. Chat for a little while and see if you guys can remain friends, despite what past feelings you may have felt.
However, if that's not the path you're looking for and you just want to get him out of your head, move on to someone else. Find someone you truly like and get to know them (if you don't already). Sometimes the best step in moving forward is to find a replacement for that special someone.
2007-03-17 17:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by spennynub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time. It sounds like you have hurt feelings in this. That takes some time to get over and heal. Get involved in something new and interesting to distract yourself. Crafts or poetry, reading or writing, aerobics or pilates, public speaking or car racing, whatever really grabs your interest.
Getting into something you like also has the added advantage of making you develop your personality more, which will make you very attractive to someone who is also interested in the same things your are!
2007-03-17 17:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing now and I think that you shouldnt forget him. Just be friends and if you want to go back out with him if things get good between eachother so continie to look for sameone else but continue to be friends.
2007-03-17 17:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kit Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being around is not going to help at all! You can't help running into him, but you can help engaging in conversations. In order to get over someone it first starts with you. You should change how you get to class. Be polite, but maintain your distance. Also you should let him know that you are not yet over him and that you would appreciate him respecting that. If you let him know then he will be more careful about being sweet and stuff! But like I said it begins with you!
2007-03-17 17:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you see the movie Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind? You CAN in fact erase him from your memory.
2007-03-17 17:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like u still like him...just a little. but all you have to do is get out there again. go on a date with someone else you have ur mind on, and try to keep your ex out of your mind on that date. if you like the guy, go on another date! it may turn into something, and make you forget about ur ex.
2007-03-17 17:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by April 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a women and move on.. but you did say that u were still school, so that's just puppy love so just get over it he did. hang out with some of your school friends u will meet someone else or better yet focus on school that's more important......
2007-03-17 17:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by Buttercup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take up an extra curricular activity. Or a new hobby. Like crafts, sports, etc. Not only will it help you relieve stress. you may also meet someone else.
2007-03-17 17:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋